2006-09-13 12:57:52 · 22 answers · asked by Wren 3 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I am a survivor of child molestation...the truth of the matter is you will know when it is right. Dont rush, dont try to proove anything And as the other answers said it will be making love and not just sex. You have to be comfortable with your partner, love is esencial and trust, but dont be desencouraged if your mind plays tricks on you....open your eyes and see who you r with...and he should know so he can understand and help you threw. I am 29 and still have my set backs...but we must go on...this(talking), is a great tool in the healing prosess....my question was : can survivors of rape live a normal life......maybe you might want to see my responses.
Your Q. may help others....God bless you!
2006-09-14 07:40:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Nobody can tell you when YOUR ready to be involved with men again. Only you have control over that. When your ready , trust me you will know it. Take all the time you need and don't ever feel rushed into it. Just follow yourself and your feelings! My heart goes out to you and I'm sorry to hear about what happened to you. In time you will heal and come to look at life much differently then ever before.
2006-09-13 20:08:20 · answer #2 · answered by StormyRain 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just as everyone else has said, every victim has there own healing time. Having a loving compassionate partner is also key.
Remember if you are having intercourse with a loving partner it's not just having sex, it is MAKING LOVE. Sometimes your mind will play tricks on you after you begin, but remember this is not the person who victimized you, this is the person you love.
Give yourself time and expect some "flashbacks".
You will never be the same again, but you can move on. Don't let your attacker take over every aspect of your future! IT DOES GET BETTER AND YOU CAN HAVE A WONDERFUL FUTURE WITH A LOVING PARTNER.
2006-09-14 11:24:42 · answer #3 · answered by together420yrs 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
For every victim it is different. I suggest having a couselor work with you also so you know it isnt your fault, and so many other important things. From experience I know you can feel dirty, worthless, fearful, terrified, repulsed, and oh lord so many other good adjectives. It takes time and emotional healing. But when you are ready you will know because it will be the right man too. He will be kind and gentle and your body with respond pleasnatly rather than stiffening up or turning off or even worse. Just be patient with yourself. It will happen in due time!
2006-09-13 20:06:37 · answer #4 · answered by Little Wifey 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
when you feel the time is right , don't be rushed into committing yourself ,if necessary seek professional help , also help from friends and family ,its extremely difficult talking though a experience like this and there is no instant cure but just knowing there is people you can call upon is a big step to trying to come to terms with the situation and hopefully enables you to move on
i hope you sincerely achieve this
good luck for the future
2006-09-13 20:17:24 · answer #5 · answered by lizella 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you are asking this question, then you are healed. Obviously you want to feel sexy again, and the opprotunity is there,. Think of it as a period of mourning. After a bit you naturally move on. I think you are already there but think society says it may be too soon. **** on society. If you are asking this question, then you are a survivor. So LIVE!!!!
2006-09-13 20:21:02 · answer #6 · answered by kathy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This would depend on each individual person and of course their mate/significant other. The approach to physical relationships and the trust that has been built in the relationship.
It takes time....
2006-09-13 21:56:20 · answer #7 · answered by justmeinNC 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As long as it takes... For some a life time.
2006-09-13 19:59:38 · answer #8 · answered by Automation Wizard 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So many variables...
However long it takes to feel comfortable again around men. Don't let people pressure you into thinking you have to be quick to heal froma trauma.
2006-09-14 01:46:45 · answer #9 · answered by jarm 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would think whenever the person is comfortable or wants to go to that point and try. I think it all depends on the woman and what happened though. So in a nut shell it is up to you?
2006-09-13 20:01:31 · answer #10 · answered by CoCo-Puffs 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋