I feel that if he really wants to be with her he would have took the intiative to file a petition for a divorce.I wouldn't get in her business but she is always asking me for my opinion about the situation. On top of that he still talks to his wife from time to time because the helped raise his stepdaughters child.He treats her pretty good from what i see but he has not filed for divorce yet. He always tells her he is ready to move in with her and wants her to show she is committted to him,but i feel u cannot make a full committment when u are legally and morally tied to someone else. Please people with experience with this situation respond to this question.She is my best friend and we have been through tragedies and other serious things together. Please help me help her to make a wise choice.
2006-09-13 12:51:48 · 5 answers · asked by tonyacrazylipstick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he's still married. Just tell her all the things you just told us.
2006-09-13 12:55:11 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very very right...if he really wanted to be with your friend, he would have already left his wife by now.
Unfortunately, as far as your friend is concerned, she's gonna have to learn this all on her own. The more your push her into a corner, the more she's gonna avoid you.
The best that you can do is be her friend, and give her all the love and support she needs.
Sorry, there's no 'easy fix' for this situation. Try to take her out and get her to meet other men - not necessarily to fix her up with another guy, but for her to meet new people, single people with a lot more to offer her.
2006-09-13 13:11:54 · answer #2 · answered by gipsy_queen99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My neighbor is the same way, they dont want to divorce usually for financial reasons, even if they have $$$. He could also have feelings for the child. As a friend, all you should do is listen, as long as your friend is not getting hurt, she should ride it out, he might fall inlove with her more and he might do the right thing. As far as moving in, i think he just misses the whole having another person all the time thing. I had withdrawal for two months afterwards after my ex moved out. Last thing your friend wants is for you to nag about it. (im sure your not).
2006-09-13 13:01:02 · answer #3 · answered by bilbissi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most relationship experts tell you that if a relationship started by cheating it will end with cheating meaning he'll cheat on her.Lots of guys are repeat cheaters and it is apparent if he really wanted to bewith your friend then he would have already filed for divorce.
2006-09-13 12:59:38 · answer #4 · answered by movin12006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell your friend, not to move in with her boyfriend, he has not filed for divorce, because he does not want it, and I don"t see why she is sitting around waiting for him, if he did it to his wife he may do it to your friend, Does he seem to be settled down yet? Why should she show him she is committed, it seems the other way around, tell her to think long and hard. and see if this is who she wants to spend the rest of her life with. only she can make that decision.
2006-09-13 13:05:05 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋