THERES THIS BOY THAT I MESSED WIT A LITTLE WHILE AGO. WE HAD SEX, AND I REALLY DO REGRET IT. HE STARTED ACTING FUNNY AFTER THAT. ITS BEEN OVER A MONTH AND HE STILL IS ACTING FUNNY. SHOULD I ASK HIM WHATS UP AND WHY HE'S BEEN ACTIN SO FUNNY, OR SHOULD I JUS LEAVE IT ALONE. I DONT LIKE HIM OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT, IT WAS JUS SEX. AND HE DOES HAVE A GIRLFRIEND. SINCE HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND, SHOULD I JUS LET THE SITUATION GO, OR SHOULD I ASK HIM. HE A FRIEND THAT I DONT WANNA LOSE, BUT I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO..HELP ME PLEASE.
2006-09-13 12:44:45 · 12 answers · asked by smileygirl419 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He is acting funny because you were his friend and the two of you had sex.
He obviously feels uncomfortable about the situation. Just call him up and let him know that you want your friendship to be perfectly normal like before; to not feel uncomfy about the sex and to move on.
Also, he has a girlfriend.. so leave it at that.
2006-09-13 12:46:54 · answer #1 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sometimes sex and friendship do not mix. I would assume he has the same feelings as you.. wishing it had never happened. Its hard to continue a friendship after being close or intimate as you were. I would suggest you two getting together and talking this out. Obviously he does have some problem that isnt going to go away unless he is just point blank asked. Get it in the open and clear the air. He may be thinking that now you want him to be your b/f. But who knows what he is thinking. You just need to have a heart to heart with him. Good Luck.
2006-09-13 19:48:26 · answer #2 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd let this go. If he wanted to discuss it with you, he wouldn't be withdrawing this way. At the least, he may need some room to come to terms with what happened. He probably has very confused feelings about what happened, and what it means for your friendship.
Might be a good idea to get a health checkup, though - just to be sure you're okay.
In time, you can always ask him to have lunch, or coffee, or whatever, and talk about whatever you used to talk about when you were just friends, before it happened. If "the incident" comes up, tell him simply how you feel, which seems to be something like, "I'm really sorry we got out of control like that - I hope it won't mess up our friendship."
The friendship may recover, but it probably needs some time to do that, while he figures out just how he feels about you now. Good luck!
2006-09-13 19:50:30 · answer #3 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SEX changes everything.
Leave it alone. What's done is done and you can't go back and change it. Just learn the lesson and move on.
If he is acting funny, then he has a problem, not you.
And then you say he has a girlfriend? He is probably trying to lay low because he does not want to get busted for his cheating *** ways... He sounds like a real prize for a boyfriend or friend..
2006-09-13 19:48:48 · answer #4 · answered by love_my_4x4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he has a gf, then u knew better to begin with. But jus let him know that ur feelin some tension between the two of you and that even tho there was an awkward event between the 2 of you, you don't want it to hurt ur FRIENDSHIP. Be sure to ask him wat EXACTLY is goin thru his mind (us guys think deeper about things than girls giv us credit for). Be sure that he knows that u don't have feelins for him, but u jus let ur emotions override your better judgement. ask if u can both jus act like it never happend and go on as before.
2006-09-13 19:49:22 · answer #5 · answered by ivegotquestions_uvegotanswers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably acting like that becuase he knows you were easy and he got what he wanted. Time to move on, sweetheart, and start having a little more respect for yourself.
2006-09-13 19:47:41 · answer #6 · answered by rightys_wife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your question's a little confusing. You don't like him but he's a friend you don't want to lose. If its the former, drop it. If its the latter, explain why and ask him.
2006-09-13 19:48:14 · answer #7 · answered by williegod 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask you risk losing him and since it meant something there is no need.His girlfriend may not want you to continue being firned if she fouund out that he slept with one of his girl friends.
2006-09-13 19:46:43 · answer #8 · answered by movin12006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd let it go....maybe he is feeling a little guilty because he has a girlfriend, if he is a true friend, it'll blow over and your friendship will be fine.
2006-09-13 19:47:51 · answer #9 · answered by deepadot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is just scared you will tell his girlfriend and you must like him or care about him or this would not be a problem for you your best option is to talk to him get some closure go your separate way and get over him
2006-09-13 19:52:43 · answer #10 · answered by reno_tony_casino 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋