There was a guy I knew only slightly back in college about 20 years ago that I was really obsessed with. I never let him know how I felt and ended up dating and occasionally marrying a string of losers. I recently found out that the guy from college is happily married and I'm happy for him and don’t want to break up his marriage or anything but I'm without a relationship right now and find myself fantasizing about this guy a lot.
I know it's not going to go anywhere and I'm happy to leave it at the fantasy level until something good and real comes along if it ever does, but what I want to know if any other women out there still have serious sexy thoughts about someone from that long ago.
2006-09-13 12:34:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hang on to those happy memories. Sometimes they're all you've got to help you through a hard time. And I'm sure that the guy wouldn't mind if he knew you were thinking about him. Not that you should tell him, of course.
2006-09-13 20:17:46 · answer #1 · answered by DAC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're just fantasizing about this guy but, in a way, fantasizing about your youth and "the path not taken."
I think we all sometimes wonder "What if.....?" but to answer your question, no. In fact, "heck, no" is my answer. That was then, this is now. The guys from back then are different people now and, face it, even back then I didn't know the "real" them but just what snippets I saw. (example, there was hunky senior when I was a sophomore in high school; a real babe; I remember the crush that I had on him but I don't care if I ever really see him again... a tiny bit of me wonders if he's still good looking or if he's this fat, bald slob now).
I don't have "serious" sexy thoughts or even any sexy thoughts about people from long ago... or even from last year. They are history... and it wasn't "real" or it wasn't "good." There was a reason that they're history.
I would guess it's harmless to fantasize the same way that you might fantasize about some movie star but you have to remind you that it's that un-real. It's JUST a fantasy.
Put your energy into looking cheerful and friendly so some "real" guy will come into your life to replace the fantasy.
2006-09-13 19:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, how did you marry a string of losers? He probably is more smart and chose a partner with a good personalties so...yea and besides you should get over him because if he's happy...chances are he might not come to you - sorry =(
2006-09-13 19:38:23 · answer #3 · answered by Bebo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fantasies, we all have them. Its normal and yeah from personal experience I've had them.
But it becomes a probelm if you cant tell the difference between fantasy and reality
2006-09-13 19:40:23 · answer #4 · answered by mybubbles245 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fantasy is never bad. just dont' act on it. i have to laugh at some of the guys i crushed on 20 years ago LOL
2006-09-13 19:37:50 · answer #5 · answered by notyours 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I fantasise about the ones who got away. They're just fantasies - they don't mean anything. But while I am fantasising they feel very real.
2006-09-13 22:19:50 · answer #6 · answered by Girl Machine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't! But its normal!!
2006-09-13 19:38:29 · answer #7 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋