is seems like i like making love more than my husband.. it hurts me everytime he pushes me away when i ask him to be intimate with me. we have a long distance relationship, we see each other twice a year, for just a month or 2. so every time were together i want to get initmate.. i like giving him a man wants but i get so down when he says no to me :( is there a problem with me?
2006-09-13 12:31:03 · 18 answers · asked by addiee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, there isn't a problem with you however there seems to be a problem with your husband.
Something is seriously up and you need to have a conversation with your hubby about what's really going on.
Any man in their right man, who has a long distance marriage, when seeing their wife only twice a year, will take any opportunity they can get to indulge in some intimate relations.
Maybe your husband is depressed because of the distance? Maybe he isn't as into you as you think (not to hurt your feelings but to point out some options)? You'll have to really talk to him about what has been bothering him and why he isn't in to the intimacy of the relationship.
Somethings gotta give.
2006-09-13 12:35:38 · answer #1 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends how often he refuses your request. If it is occasionally let it go do not make big fuss about it. If it happens most of the time, I think that you are describing a conditions known as Inhibited sexual desire (ISD). The person with ISD fails to initiate or respond to their partner's desire for sexual activity.
Sometimes, rather than being inhibited, there may simply be a discrepancy in sexual interest levels between two partners, both of whom have interest levels within the normal range this maybe a case when you have long periods of separation.
Occasionally, someone may claim that his or her partner has ISD, when in fact they, them self, have hyperactive sexual desire and are very demanding sexually.
ISD is a very common sexual disorder. The most common cause of ISD seems to be relationship problems wherein one partner does not feel emotionally intimate or close to their mate.
Communication problems, health problems such as depression, insomnia, excessive stress.
Treatment is required by the professional therapist and it depends on the eliminating causes listed above.
2006-09-13 19:48:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your marriage set up is unrealistic. What is up with that? Two times per year??? How about if you guys arrange it so that the two of you can see each other more. Maybe move closer...or (I know its a radical thought) move in together. How old are you two? If he is older, maybe he should try Viagra or something like that. By the way, you can't just be apart for most of the year and then everything be normal when you do get together. If you need help let me know: rockin752005@yahoo.com
2006-09-13 19:44:39 · answer #3 · answered by rockin752005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that is you. You are a dream come true. You are what men kill for. And babie you want luvin who in there right mind would not feel the earth stop as soon as you looked with those big brown eyes. And moved those precious succulent lips saying love. You sound perfect you are dedicated to loving your man. He must have a problem. You deserve all of the glory of love. You should get it
2006-09-13 19:40:18 · answer #4 · answered by M2J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the reason for the distance? Is he working a cruise ship or in another country making the big buck to support the family back home? Maybe he doesn't want another mouth to feed. One month is not a relationship. Maybe it is time to move on.
2006-09-13 19:41:32 · answer #5 · answered by justwondering 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he is just afraid of overly committing emotions when he is gonna be at a distance again. I think if he is working toward your future together than you need to help him through this.
I was in the navy and I tried to put aside my romantic notions when I was out away from home and it was hard to reignite for short rendevous
Good Luck and God Bless
2006-09-13 19:53:47 · answer #6 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make a way of making your relationship a closer one like weekly or monthly seeing each other is this possible? BTW their is nothing wrong with you...maybe he's just exhausted or adjusting to having you there?
2006-09-13 19:41:37 · answer #7 · answered by lol_des 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you are married. He is not. Get a different husband locally that will enjoy your love and tenderness instead of pushing you away.
2006-09-13 20:20:02 · answer #8 · answered by TCPBCP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a Filipina, you should know that he may be having too much while he is away. Since you are practically deprived of sex during his absence and he is probably not, it is only natural that you will be wanting more and he wanting less.
2006-09-14 10:29:46 · answer #9 · answered by seabug_46 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
woah woman. u must forget about him and get a real husband. Ask for a divorce and find d new lover. Are u crazy,dont put up with this!
2006-09-13 19:35:19 · answer #10 · answered by europe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋