Ok, for those of you who are really bored, here is my situation. Ever since my best friend started dating and moved in with this guy, she has been acting really weird. shes completely started ignoring her friends including me. when she does come out and socialize, shes got a bad attitude. other friends have even started asking me what is up with her, and i dont know. so i approached her about it and asked what is wrong. she insists she has never been happier. then i told her that even other people think something is up with her. but i wouldnt tell her who it was who was asking about her. i figure, that is their job. i told her it wasnt my place to tell her that, and tried to change the subject to things that had been going on in my life. she hung up for not getting her way, and didnt give a damn about a serious problem that i have and wanted to talk about. was i wrong? should i have told her who else had been saying that something seems wrong with her? what would you do?
2006-09-13 12:28:56 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i've known this girl since highschool, and her boyfriend is also a friend of my husband. i know all this seems silly, but i could use an outside opinion. im really irritated that she is dropping everyone now that she has a boyfriend. and i think she feels guilty for living with him and being sexually active, and dropping out of college, because before she was ALL ABOUT christian morals. maybe she doesnt want to admit her guilt or whatever, but it ticks me off that she is being so selfish and never comes to me unless she needs something anymore. should i just forget her, or was i wrong and should tell her?
2006-09-13 12:31:52 · update #1
No your right its not your place to tell her its theres. She doesn't sound like much a friend to me. I wouldn't worry about her if this is how she is going to act and when things go bad shes going to have no one to lean on because shes being so mean to everyone else and doesn't care about you and her other friends. I would just leave her alone and move on with your life. I've already been through it and now she calling me and begging me to be her friend. I don't trust her because its only a matter of time before she does it again. Cut your loses now and move on. You'll be better off. Believe me I know. It's going to be hard but it sounds like you have other friends who will help you get through it or you can all halp each other if it bothers you girls too much. Good luck.
2006-09-13 12:36:49 · answer #1 · answered by Heather A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if she doesn't know how to handle the romance and is all wrapped up in it to the exclusion of anything else. Or her boyfriend does not want her seeing her old friends. I think she has a big surprise coming. They will eventually break up and she will not have any friends left. Don't call her any more. Wait and see what she does. After all, you do have other friends. And if she does call you because she wants something, say what you said above and see if she will straighten out this problem.
2006-09-13 19:33:25 · answer #2 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you weren't wrong. DO NOT appologize. She is in a miserable situation (for whatever reason) and is taking it out on the ones who used to care the most for her. Nobody can get her out of it except herself. You care TOO MUCH. Move on.
2006-09-13 19:36:09 · answer #3 · answered by blackjack 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋