Apparently, it is to give you time to prepare for the wedding but does there need to be such a fuss. why can't it be that the couple just tells people that they are in getting married in for example march and start planning instead of gettin an engagement ring and usin the proper term of 'fiance' while engaged. If am being extremely cynical, i would think its just a ploy for the ladies to get a ring.
2006-09-13 12:19:19 · 21 answers · asked by Quiet Storm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some people might have been anticipating or hoping for it so long they get carried away. Just forgive them and enjoy your fiancee.
2006-09-13 12:21:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be tricky and is a BIG deal to incorperate a new member into a family. A fiance is taken much more seriously then just a "boy/girl friend" who may or may not be there in a month or so. So during the pre-wedding stage (when the couple is meeting family on both sides), it's easier and better to say my fiance then boy/girl friend or "the one I'm gonna marry".
Engagement ring's serve a very practical purpose - to keep other men away from your woman! If your fiance walks around without a ring then other men will think she is still available and hit on her and give her special attention. From my experience, a ring on the finger stops them dead in their tracks.
2006-09-13 20:26:04 · answer #2 · answered by nutty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost everything about marriage is symbolism including the ring. The diamond symbolizes the enduring nature of your love and the gold band symbolizes the duration as an eternity. The engagement provides time for the family to plan and in more formal times was the period in which the couple really got to know each other. Marriage and the ceremony are simply the public commitment of a couple to be together. It purely symbolic and is only as meaningful as the couple make it. I'd say enjoy the process it only happens once and its very special if you let yourself participate. How exciting, congratulation!
2006-09-13 19:26:29 · answer #3 · answered by white_yack 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many don't bother anymore about engagements and the like. They just have a quiet little wedding in someone's back yard. And lots of couples no longer even bother with big rings -- gold bands have always been big. Couples are now a team with both bringing in an income. Few would prefer a big rock to a great car, or a better home.
2006-09-13 19:24:25 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First the dating process is to see if you actually have anything in common to grow on, then you fall in love, you see if this is the person you really want for life.
The engagement process is the final step to see if you are compatible, do you both see eye to eye on every aspect of life, can you let some things go without it being a contraversy if not then it is not a match, if so then you are good to go. You are preparing to see if you are really ready for marriage, it's not about a ring, wedding prep and romance, its about practicality in love and life.
Today's society misses the point of courtship(that's dating), engagement and marriage.
I'm 35 and was married at 28, so even in my time this same stuff came up. You have to be mature enough to understand before you start up a relationship.
Society has helped in your cynism. Just take some time out to use some common sense and reality in your choices for dating and what you really want in your life. If you are not ready for marriage, say so, let her know this before you waste her time.
I wish you well and sorry to hear that you seem to be jaded somewhat.
2006-09-13 19:29:00 · answer #5 · answered by Martin M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Engagement Defined: The act of being engaged; betrothal; a promise or agreement to be at a particular place at a particular time (that last part isn't meant to define a pre-wedding engagement but, when thinking about the eventual goal a couple has of getting married, it seemed, much like a wedding ring, to fit quite nicely).
2006-09-13 19:30:51 · answer #6 · answered by cyunos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you are right because being engaged is not just about getting a ring but its also about getting ready for the wedding or maybe your not able to do the wedding at the point becuase you dont have the money or maybe u just cant doing the wedding becuase of both of the people are not in the same country and are working out a plan to live in a place that works for both of them
2006-09-13 19:24:53 · answer #7 · answered by Zina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not so much time to get prepared for the wedding but a kind of a trial marriage - it gives both parties a chance to see how they REALLY get on together but without legally being married and if they think it's not going to work out for whatever reason(s), you can go your own ways. Many people these days co-habit but it's basically the same thing, just different, if that makes sense. :)
2006-09-13 19:21:27 · answer #8 · answered by mancunian_nick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well while you are working so hard to plan (which the woman does most of the work) and usually thats the only thing some women get. Anyway while you are seriously preparing for marriage,it lets everyone know you are, It is also a profession of Love and Commitment !! So stop being so CHEAP and when you get engaged buck up and get one worth a lifetime of love.....
2006-09-13 19:25:46 · answer #9 · answered by Justalittlesexy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think there is a point to engagement if it's done properly. I don't see the point in people who get engaged and stay that way for years and years with apparently no intention of getting married.
2006-09-13 20:38:27 · answer #10 · answered by y30man5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ring signifies the commitment of the man to the woman. It also lets people know they are more serious about each other than just casual dating. A diamond is the symbol for forever.
2006-09-13 19:21:43 · answer #11 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋