I need help! only serous answers please!?

Question

okay this is my story. i always compare myself to the other girl at school. by the way im in the seventh grade. they are all so skinny and popular, not saying im not pretty. i want to get rid of some weight. now before u say to get off the couch, i do. i eat healthy. lay off chips and other fatty things. at least i try to. i also exercise. everyday. but sometimes i lose my self esteem. i feel that boys wont be interested in me because i have a little heavier thighs. i also have belly fat, too. so what should i do. hopefully u guys know what im talking about. thanxs!

Answer 1

Nicki, don't you worry about a thing. Without even realizing it, this phase will pass and you'll wonder why you ever thought badly of yourself. Sweetie, you don't need anyone to tell you you're beautiful, but I'm going to. You are. And by the way, haven't you ever heard the song 'Baby Got Back'? Chin up. You will be fine.

Answer 2

Everyone is built differently and even if you are not overweight you can still have thick thighs or a big bum etc.

Maybe you have too much muscle on your thighs? You could try pilates which gives you long lean muscles. Maybe you need to tone up your belly?

In the end it doesn't matter as everyone has parts they don't like about themselves, no one is perfect. Look around some people have spots, some people have broad shoulders, some people have ugly feet. None of those things will affect what the boys are thinking. They're all attracted to different things and believe it or not the most important thing IS personality.

If you don't like certain parts of your body try looking for tips online on how to hide/minimise the area and show off the parts you like. For example draw attention to your eyes with makeup or if you have toned arms wear sleeveless shirts etc.

Answer 3

Listen missy. . . first of all . . . at your age. . it is normal for girls to still have some baby fat so don't sweat it. Second of all. .. . any boys who only want to date what "TV" or "Society" says are datable girls . . well . . .they are not worth your time! Sure.. . . everybody is attracted to physical attributes.. . .but physical attributes do not or can not maintain a relationship. They may draw someone in. . .but will not keep them. A great personality and warm smile last forever. Just look at the loser people in hollywood. These women are so called "perfect beauties" but can't keep a man. . . . why. . . because looks only go so far. Look at Billy Joel. . . he married Christy Brinkley and then dumped her on her butt and kicked her to the curb. . . why. . . because looks aren't everything. . . and lets face it. . Billy Joel is not the best looking guy in the world! Keep your self esteem up and be who you are. ALso . . in the next few years the guys in your school will stop caring about who looks the best and start paying attention to the girls that put out! Don't fall into that trap either. If a boy only wants to be with a girl cause she puts out. . . that is another thing that wont maintain a relationship. Sex gets old if there is nothing more behind it. Hold out and don't settle ever. Popularity is not everything. Look at Paris the whore Hilton. She is popular. . . but only because she is a total skank who rides her rich dady's coattails!

Answer 4

I think every person feels this way at some point. And some of us feel this way for our whole lives. It is especially difficult for women/girls because there is so much pressure put on us to be thin and beautiful. Most of us aren't going to look like models. You just keep on doing what you're doing; eating healthy and exercising. What is really important is keeping a strong and healthy body. Don't be so hard on yourself. You are experiencing a difficult time in your life right now, but it will get easier. Be kind and generous and keep a good sense of humor and people will like you for that, yes, even boys. It may not seem like it now, but in the big scheme of things people will be more impressed with the inside you, not the outside you.

Answer 5

Eat more protien and less processed carbs. Really...the fat will start falling off. "getting off the couch" is SERIOUS advice...especially to someone as young as you. Dance...walk...run..keep moving..the weight will go. If you spend more time actively engaged in something and less time putting yourself down, you'd end up with a slender body. You know, plenty of young women like you who do have slender bodies, still are unhappy with themslves. Find something that gives you satisfaction in life, and do it. Self esteem does not come from losing weight. It comes from feeling a sense of worth. A sense of worth comes from feeling good about yourself. See what you can do to try to help someone else and get the focus off yourself. You can't change what others think until you get going and engage in life. You really have a lifetime ahead t o participate in. Start now. You will see your self -confidence grow. The weight issue is not your core problem..just a symptom.

Answer 6

The first and best thing you can do is be comfortable with yourself. At your age, your body is still changing, and depending on your age and development the "fat" you describe can still actually be baby fat. If you are eating sensibly and exercising, then feel good about that. If you like yourself and are comfortable with yourself, then others see that confidence and feel comfortable being around you. Don't waste your time comparing yourself to others. Be yourself. You will make friends.

Answer 7

As long as you are watching what you eat and getting plenty of exercise, you shouldn't worry.
Sounds like you have the body type known as "voluptuous"...enjoy your extra curves! As you will quickly find out, guys prefer healthy women to those skinny wraith types, anyhow.
Yes, Hun, I know what you're talking about. I can remember feeling self-conscious and having self-esteem problems, too...as long as I kept comparing myself to other girls.
And then, one day, I discovered the fact that the boys weren't staring at me because they thought I was "fat" at all......
*sighs happily*

Answer 8

Keep working out. Losing weight takes time and at your age, you have alot of it. Since you're young and working out, this will fare better in the long run when you're older and really begin pushing weight. I'd keep the thighs but work on the stomach.

Answer 9

you are in your transition years. from a child to a teenager / young adult. these are called peer pressure. you are being pressured to be just like your friend. you are unique in your own way!

my advice to you are just be yourself, don't be hard on yourself and enjoy your life while you still can. let people see the real you beneath those skin! don't let your physical appearance stop you!

slow down! i was a teenager once, you must be feeling that you want to grow up faster and people treat you like an adult. but believe me, being an adult s*cks big time! just enjoy the ride and don't speed up!

(if only i could live in my childhood years back!)

Answer 10

well since your only in the seventh grade,its probably baby fat wait till you hit 16 it will probably go away on its own,my bf was a chubby kid once and it went away when he got older,your too young to go on any diet,maybe join some kind of sports team like track or swimming