My Kindergarten child is behaving badly at school and refuses to do his work?

Question

My son has always been a very happy child and easy to deal with. He spent two years in preschool and was fine. His first week of kindergaten he was excited and happy to learn. The second week of school he started a fight in lunch started to refuse to do schoolwork for the teacher and he continues to have those problems now. At home he does his homework fine, does his chores without complaint and is still very behaved. Recently the teacher called me and set up a meeting with the principal, teacher, and guidance councelor. they said they want himto be pulled from kindergarten and try again next year. But I know he woulds be fine in a few weeks What do I do?

Answer 1

Hold him back a year.

Answer 2

All of these people have great points. It's obvious that he is fine at home and the problem lies at school, before pulling him out, as previously suggested, pop in and see where the true problem lies. The teacher may be too hard on him, it could be a bully, it could be that he may need glasses or a little extra help from a teacher or assistant. You may also want to spy the whole day, let the principal know, and not to let anyone else know. There could be something else there. Do talk to you son and see if he is willing to talk to you about the things happening in school. Most of the time kids are too embarrassed to say anything.

Answer 3

Some of the above answers are good. As a previous Kindergarten teacher AND as a mom who has actually been in this situation, let me share my advice.

Go to the meeting with an open mind. Remember, you have known your child longer than these people AND they are trained professionals.

ASK your child's feelings about school. LISTEN to your child. Perhaps there is a child who is bullying or bothering your child. Perhaps he is just being stubborn. Perhaps the teacher has said or done something to make him or her nervous.

You don't actually KNOW that he will be fine in a few weeks. I had a child last year whose mom said this, she was not fine, my year was very hard (but I did it!) and the little girl is repeating Kindergarten this year.

Just listen, give your input, and talk to your child before this meeting. I don't know where you are, but here, the school can NOT deny a child's admission in Kindergarten if they are of age. If you go in with your feathers ruffled, you will all come out of it feeling negatively towards each other.

Best of luck for your son! I'd love to know how this comes out.

Answer 4

Listen to Marty. It sounds like your son is fine its the educators who don't want a "challenge." I'd leave him in Kindergarten unless you would rather leave him back. By giving him more time to try he could adjust to the other students, etc. Also, ask if they could change teachers, if they have a problem, call the Education Association in the States Capital and RAISE HELL, my sister had to in her situation. She finally got the teacher audited because of the way she was teaching her son was not right, she had it against him and the principal did too. If he was excited and happy to learn the first week what has changed? Sounds like just the class room environment and that's OUTSIDE of his control.

Be patient with him, but put the school on notice.

Answer 5

Go Marty K.....I totally agree. There are too few teachers who genuinely care for their students, and those who do are tied up in the red tape of being PC.
That being said:
You didn't say how old your son is, or how many students are in his kindergarten class. He may be having difficulty adjusting to the larger, less intimate setting.
Homework for kindergartners? You've got to be kidding. My guess is, there's something happening in the class that's making him unhappy. Talk to your son. Let him tell you what his typical day is like. Also, you may want to "pop in" and observe his class. Your child's emotional well being is your responsibility. Let him know you're there for him.
I saw mine through public school, until I finally pulled the youngest and home schooled. I discovered, much too late, that he had dyslexia and was probably ADD, but I refused to dull his brain with experimental and harmful drugs.
Have your son checked if you think he has a learning disability, and demand that the schools help him to learn at HIS level of learning.

Answer 6

The vast majority of the time the problem lies with the system and the environment of present-day schools, as opposed to the child, himself. You have to be very careful, because if this is the case, then the blame that they place upon him because they're too prideful to look at themselves will be very detirimental to him.

In addition, they could start claiming that he has some politically correct type of condition, such as so-called "attenttion deficit disorder," ect. Then, they'll want to give him harmful drugs, especailly if he shows signs of normal masculine behavior.

I'm sorry madam, but as you might guess, I don't think a whole lot of present-day schools. You'd be better off if you could assume the responsibility and home school him somehow, or seek some other method.

Answer 7

sit down with your son and calmly ask him what is happening in the class and in recess...if might be a kid or more are giving him a bad time, or the teacher is not giving the attention he needs, or it could be the teacher and your son are having issues..[do not let them hold him back]
once you have talked to him, if their is a problem, tell the teacher and principal and councelor and straighten it out at that meeting.. if you find that it is the teacher, insist on
another class, [some schools have am and pm classes, maybe switching to a different class might be the answer...

Answer 8

My husband is a 6th grade instructor and particular, there are toddlers in his type completely disrespectful and loud. while he writes them up and sends them to the principals place of work, the central calls him and all the different instructors in for conferences after college. he's informed to not deliver the youngsters each and all the time. ok, so he calls the mother and dad, maximum of them look incapable of disciplining their toddlers, they paintings long hours and enable the youngsters wreck out with fairly some stuff, or they tell him, My son does not try this. the teachers quite have no selections in any respect anymore. Their palms are sure by ability of mom and dad threatening to sue the college equipment if their little angel became taken care of unfairly of their opinion. The rigidity from the college boards is spectacular and so, the instructor has no real ability anymore of giving any form of useful self-discipline. the youngsters understand that ok and a few of them make solid use of it. In my days, issues have been diverse too, via fact the mother and dad stood at the back of the instructor, now they often do not. so the youngsters who pick to be triumphant are many times and regrettably sufficient people who're being left at the back of while it is composed of getting interest.

Answer 9

Sometimes a child's behavior is a reflection of something else. Have there been any radical changes in his life? Has he experienced any trauma recently? Are there bullies at the school? Has he lost a friend, pet, or family member? Ask many questions of him, and by all means "listen" to his answers very carefully without judgement.

Answer 10

Go to the meeting and tell them that you know he wud be fine soon.

I think that you should talk to your son about what the teacher said and how he is behaving at school and listen to him to find out why he is acting the way he is

Answer 11

Go to the meeting and hear them out, but make sure you stick up for him. It's hard work being in kindergarten, and quite an adjustment! I kept my son out of kinder until he was 6, but he is not an easy child, and it was still pretty hard for him to adjust to the new environment. Good luck!