i have no idea what to do. i guess i'm just a teen with hormones but i'm now at a school where i live on my own, its a school for arts like singing and acting.. i sing, but anyway, i'm easily pressured into doing things that i normally wouldn't do.. now i'm being pressured to have sex and drink and there's a part of me that wants to but i know its not good. what should i do?
2006-09-13 12:08:06 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Allright, the time has come for you to decide who you are. Are you a sheep who does what he's told? Are you so weak brained that others can control you? Or are you an individual with a mind of his own with goals and a future in mind? No one can make these decisions for you. You are at a crossroads and someday you will look back at this. Will you look back in shame and sorrow or will you be proud of your choices? Make a decision and stick to it.
2006-09-13 12:12:09 · answer #1 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all you're a female. So being pressured to have sex is something that you're gonna have to deal with your whole life, that's what us guys do, so you'll have to learn to deal with it. As for drinking, keep it in moderation. If you are clever it is not too hard to fool a roomful of drunk morons. Just throw away drinks half empty, lie about how many you've had, that type of thing.
Do what you want when you feel the time is right.
2006-09-13 19:13:48 · answer #2 · answered by s_e_e 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to drink or have sex and your friends continue to put pressure on you to do it. Then they are really not your friends. A true friend would not make you do something you don't want to do. No one has the right to make you do something you don't want. Remember you are your own person and if your friends don't like the way you are. Then you need to move on to true friends.
2006-09-13 19:15:40 · answer #3 · answered by hazelshine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they really want you to do it and you keep telling them that you don't then they are not your true friends. What kind of friends would want you to do something tha tyou did not want to do? I mean I would understand if they were trying to get you to do something good, but both of those things are not good for you so just stay a way from them.
I have had some friends like that and I just told them that I don't want to do it and they listen and would not offer it to me or anything. I consider them my real friends because they understand me and don't pure presuure me or anything.
One more tip when you drink, something bad always happens so just stay away from it.
2006-09-13 19:47:14 · answer #4 · answered by goof ball 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a group of friends that are more like you and aren't into drinking or sex. your group of friends are probably rubbing off on you and you should get away from the pressure. if you ever have a bad feeling about something just simply don't do it and if your friends make fun of you for it then you know they aren't your true friends. good luck.
2006-09-13 19:11:06 · answer #5 · answered by kristy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay... the drinking thing doesnt bug me just because im part of it but the sex part... well, just think of a few years from now when your regretting it.. the only problem is that when you are drunk you have little control of your actions so if you decide to drink be sure its with people you can trust... and who you can trust while they are drunk at the same time... the whole sex thing is really up to you but alot of problems come with it... like crushed self- esteem
2006-09-13 19:12:52 · answer #6 · answered by elemenopee. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF you don't want to do it then don't...you'll regret it later. Your the one who is going to stress over it later if you do something that you don't want to do not them. If they were you true friends then they wouldn't do this to you. They might ask you but then leave it at that. If you truely want to do it then go for it. Your the only one who can make the decision. If there is any doubt in your mind then don't do it. When your ready then you'll do it. Don't let them pressure you into something that you don't want to do.
2006-09-13 19:24:41 · answer #7 · answered by Heather A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you kow its wrong then dont do it because then you will have to live with the guilt and then it wont be worth it and then you might get a bad rep at school as well.... you know... so i dont think that you should do it even though your friends will say youll be cool really the people that do it are just insecure with themselves and they don have lives ok so just dont do it if you think its wrong and trust me right now its not right....your true friends would never EVER make you do that
2006-09-13 19:13:31 · answer #8 · answered by Mimi J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have a little voice inside, called conscience, do what it says. Really, if you give in to peer pressure now, imagine later! There's no way for you to be successful in arts if you don't stand your ground and be yourself.
2006-09-13 19:10:28 · answer #9 · answered by AMBER D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't submit to pressure to do anything you don't want to do. Just say, I'm not into that scene right now.
2006-09-13 19:09:35 · answer #10 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋