everyone LOVES my best friend school just started and she's gotten asked out 3 times i havent once. her boyfriend is actually my ex. she asks me why i've been so sad lately..but its because she has soo many firends, she's a gymnast, and every guy loves her.im always with her but everyone notices her instead of me...what should i do??
2006-09-13 12:05:50 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i was kinda like this at school, cause my best friend had the 'package' - with a great figure, and the things that boys want on a superficial level. but you know what- because i often seemed to stand in her shadow, i developed my personality and sense of humour and things. and those things become more and more important as you get older. so i have had lots more boyfriends than she has in the long run. i have had more love. and i got married first. so while it is hard for you now, because you just feel like she is getting all the attention, i think that as you get older and there is a chance for you to get to know all sorts of guys you will be fine.
so just work on being a nice person, and making people like you because of who you are - not just cause you are pretty or whatever (i am assuming that you friend is like this, because she sounds like my old best friend was). also, don't forget that even if things seem easy for your friend, she will have her own challenges too. things are often not as they seem. and once high school is over, all becomes MUCH more fun and easier. i promise.
2006-09-13 12:13:20 · answer #1 · answered by girl3blonde 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She can't be that great! She has your left-overs. Also, good friends do not go out with their friends' exes. Besides that, please do not be sad. It is time to be a little independent from your friend and explore other interests and other friends. I was feeling sad because the guys I dated were always telling me about the wonderful beautiful women they had dated and that had drop dead gorgeous bodies! My therapist told me to watch the movie with Eddie Murphy - Boomerang. In that movie, Holly Berry was the plain one (but this is ironic because she is really one beautiful woman) and so are you!!! Eddie always went for the models ... until he met Holly and then everything changed and he was head over heals for her. Looks and popularity are fleeting and superficial. Work on developing strength, confidence and create your own personal signature. And when you love yourself, so will the rest of the world.
Be well.
2006-09-13 19:44:44 · answer #2 · answered by Serendipity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop expecting that just because your friend is popular that it will rub off on you.
Sometimes we out-grow our friends. You should try making other friends that are more like you. From your statement, it sounds like you are jealous of your friend. That is not good in a friendship. If you were a little more focused on your life instead of your friend's life you would find that popularity isn't all it's cracked up to be. The older you get the less important stuff like that is.
Try making some new friends. You may want to give this friendship a break.
2006-09-13 19:12:59 · answer #3 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. What I did was tried a different hairdo, I wore makeup all of the time. I took pride in how I looked and it showed. You have to get your self esteem back up and when it is guys and girls will notice and before you know it people will be talking and asking you out. They can tell that she carries herself well and thats what you need to do. Beauty isn't everything. IF you carry yourself well everything will fall into place. I do disagree on her dating your ex.......friends don't date other friends ex boyfriends. So ask yourself is she really your friend?????
2006-09-13 19:13:18 · answer #4 · answered by Heather A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, if you're worried about being so jealous, ask yourself what about her rouses this. Second, as far as not being noticed, take it easy. It may not be your time yet. Those who shine early burn out early, sorry to say (on behalf of your friend). Waiting your turn will ultimately turn out to be the best thing you have ever did...trust me, I know by firsthand experience.
How does your friend feel about this? Does she realize that she has pretty much taken all attention away from you, or is she too busy to notice? Ask her about it. I know it can be a touchy subject, but find out.
2006-09-13 19:13:10 · answer #5 · answered by Black Angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in time you will get guys to notice you. guys will get tired of being her sugardaddy! shes a tease! dont be like her keep looking for a nice boy you might have to go to the mall or a restaurant to find that right guy and be happy for your friend.find you some new friends!!
2006-09-13 19:14:57 · answer #6 · answered by MS. DAISY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry about your friends poularity im sure you have your own beauty i know how you feel my friend gets all the girls and everything you will meet some 1 and other friends of your own and a bf that you like.
2006-09-13 19:12:38 · answer #7 · answered by demetri c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever you want to do. You might want to get out of her shadow though. Get yourself a BF, if you want one. Get more Friends if that will do it. Don't worry about her, just live your own life.
2006-09-13 19:08:33 · answer #8 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get some confidence and self-esteem. it sounds like your friend is pretty confident and happy with who she is. once you are confident, you will shine and people will notice your confidence and it will help you.
2006-09-13 19:09:18 · answer #9 · answered by kristy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to her tell her you feel left out.
2006-09-13 19:46:50 · answer #10 · answered by daisy9p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋