Ladies,
Would you be offended if your spouse asked you to go down and finsh him off after he's already been in you?
I personally dont think that is too much to ask but for whatever reason that request upset my wife. She prefers to either just give me a BJ and finsh me off that way or for me to just do her and finish that way..
But she has no problem asking me to go down on her after I have been in her. She claims it's different.
2006-09-13 12:02:50 · 36 answers · asked by RedEye 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she said going down on me after I have been in her is something only a switch hitter would want to do.
I have had others do this for me before I got married and they werent switch hitters or lesbos (of course i didnt tell the wife that)
2006-09-13 12:04:44 · update #1
I will go down on her even if I have been in her as long as I didnt finish in there.
the weird part is she will kiss me after I been down on her and that's pretty much the same thing right?
2006-09-13 12:15:11 · update #2
keep in mind this is not a problem I jsut dont understand her stance on the whole issue.
I think it's kind of a double standard that it is ok for me to kiss her after being downtown but she doesnt want to finsh me off after i been in her.
2006-09-13 12:17:42 · update #3
Wow, obviously you've talked to your wife about this.....................I personally wouldn't be offended by the gesture. But this is your wife you are speaking of, if shes not into it, then its not her thing, you have to respect that.
2006-09-13 12:11:39 · answer #1 · answered by Monie D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said you wouldn't go down on her if you've finished there, right? Why not? For the same reason she doesn't want to go down on you with all her juices on you. Kissing and oral sex are different. Would you kiss her right after you finished in her mouth? Probably not.
Respect her feelings and don't ask her to do something she isn't comfortable with. Otherwise, sex will become tense and not pleasurable for either one of you.
2006-09-13 12:22:52 · answer #2 · answered by Lady J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As many others have said its all about respect. If she does not like the "taste" of herself then you must repsect that just as she should respect your feelings towards a certain act. The whole idea behind sex is for you BOTH to have pleasure and if you really do not like doing something then the pleasure is gone.
2006-09-13 12:59:06 · answer #3 · answered by hope4best 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're wife needs to get over it, I don't see what the big deal is. But trust me all the advice is not going to change her mind. Just ask her to try it once and if it bothers her still then there's your answer. Good luck!
2006-09-13 12:35:51 · answer #4 · answered by devildollbaby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see what the problem is, but preferences I guess. She just prefers not to be able to "taste" herself. I certainly wouldn't consider it "only something a switch hitter would do".
2006-09-13 12:08:19 · answer #5 · answered by Sillygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is it different?! Do you go disinfect before you kiss her?! If you think about it it's really grosser for a guy to go down on a girl then it is for girl to give a guy a BJ!
2006-09-13 12:17:23 · answer #6 · answered by tnicb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was younger and new to "the game" yeah i though it was gross, but i also didn't swallow then either. now that i'm....well...more experienced lets say lol....no problama either aspect. But I don't do that unless if I've been with the person for awhile...like a long standing friend with benefits or a bf when i have one.
2006-09-13 12:06:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt mind that. I think i taste good... i would kiss him after he went down on me and visa versa so, anyway you twist it all those fluids are going everywhere anyway so enjoy it.
And thats not fair for you to go down there after but her not want to... there is no difference. If anything their are far more juices going on down in her than on you anyways.
2006-09-13 12:06:18 · answer #8 · answered by MzHazelnut22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably has an issue w/ "tasting" herself. My man & I will both do it. It's a big turn on for us, that's just the way were are. Some ppl are more oral than others. Try to discuss it, but if she doesn't want to, don't try to force it on her.
2006-09-13 12:34:36 · answer #9 · answered by blonde_bluekitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude ... this is a sad, sad condition. Your wife is being very inconsiderate. Unless she was a victim of rape, its nothing but selfishness. Consider this: in porn, there is this thing called "ATM" - its stands for A*ss To Mouth. That's right, just what you're thinking: the "member" doesn't go from her vagina to her mouth, it goes from her ATM.
And the implied message is "she's so hot and in to it she'll take it straight from her own a*ss!"
You're not being selfish. Her juices are "sanitary" enough for you to taste and drink ... OF COURSE she should enjoy them. My baby loves the fact that she's made my "member" hers, if you know what I mean. There are women out there who not only "do it" but do it with relish with a sense of pride.
Remember, it cuts both ways: if you wanted to sell her on a street corner in order to have a "complete" sex life then your corrupt sexuality would be damaging your relationship. Because she has phobias ABOUT HER OWN JUICES her corruption is damaging your relationship. It IS a corruption on her part. Don't let her pull the "I'm selfish, if you really loved me cr*ap." Her prissyness is getting in the way of a perfectly normal thing for a woman to do.
Good luck.
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2006-09-13 12:19:29 · answer #10 · answered by robabard 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋