I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year. He has two kids that I just can't seem to be really really happy about being around. They aren't so bad and they do like me a lot most of the time. I do like them too, they just aren't mine I guess..and I have a daughter myself who they love and get along with. I just feel like I'm fourth on his list under work, kids, and problems ..bills. I just feel kinda bored with him and empty inside. I have talked to him about this and he is better sometimes...I think it's probably me..I just feel depressed and don't know if I'd be any happier if I left him!! I need good advice!! please!!!
2006-09-13 11:58:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you have to ask, then you probably should. Happiness isn't going to grow, if anything, it will fade. If he doesn't treat you like you want to be treated now, he's not going to do it 5 years down the road either. It might be hard at first to leave him now, but better that than years down the road when it's even harder for your kids!
2006-09-13 12:03:20 · answer #1 · answered by Pigskin Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ashley you have come out of a previous partnership and have moved on in your heart only you can know if your Man is worth trying harder for or not . his kids are after a year probably still seeing you as their stand in mom ,in time I'm sure that this will change . your feelings for the kids though has to be on an even footing,,,, now its our kids not his or yours... his work is some thing that he has to do its how he provides for all of those so dependent on him so some times you might have to take a back seat to it I know its a pain in the 3UTT . I think you guys need some adult time together I take it you both have Ex's so why not once a fortnight just book into a local bed and breakfast or what ever and get closer , It seem a waist that you can get so close and then not take the time to organize your lives to make each other more blissful
2006-09-13 19:18:47 · answer #2 · answered by slick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a problem that will somewhat fix itself in time. You will be a family if you stay together and you will love his kids in time. You will encounter the same problem if you leave him and then try to blend your child with a new man with or without his own children. Also, often the men with children are the most understanding. The bills and the boredom. . .that is just life with its ups and downs. Are you attracted to him? Do you love him? If yes to both then you are just fine.
2006-09-13 19:07:37 · answer #3 · answered by Ambrosia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As Dr. Phil would say, "the best predictor of present behavior is past behavior" if you have talk to him about feeling the way you do and he only changes for alittle while then maybe he isn't the right man for you.
2006-09-13 19:02:42 · answer #4 · answered by tnicb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look at your first opening line and read it carefully, there is your answer (i can't seem to be realy realy happy) i think you should let this guy go and let him find someone whos not so self centerd, his kids should come first , who doesn't put ther kids first?, and bills, well , they are what kids need to be payed so they can live , ya you should come last out of these , how can u be so selfish?
2006-09-13 19:39:07 · answer #5 · answered by delana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about what u really want because that is all that matters if u are not happy move on because life is to short to be miserable
2006-09-13 19:04:02 · answer #6 · answered by janet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop being selfish ....you need to stop and put things in perspective
2006-09-13 19:00:44 · answer #7 · answered by angeleyes3605@yahoo.com 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋