I THINK U GIRLS SECRETLY LIKE GETTING BEAT DOWN. OR FEEL YOU DESERVE IT. YOU CERTAINLY DO FOR STAYING WITH THEM.
2006-09-13 11:42:23 · 19 answers · asked by I LOVE EWE N MEI 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
a girl is not smart if she chooses to stay with you if that is what you're asking
2006-09-15 07:25:36 · answer #1 · answered by *~HoNeYBeE~* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now now, that's not very nice. We stay with them because they have us believing that there is no one else out there that will love us as much as they do and because our low self esteem also makes us believe that. So we have 2 things against us telling us to stay and that he really does love us and we keep making excuse after excuse for the reasons he beats us. It is going to take serious intervention and lots of space and time between the abuser and the abused for the abused to not want to go back. It's going to take lots of love from other people who actually love us and aren't trying to control us to be there for us. One thing you never want to do is leave an abused person alone. They already feel alone and the only attention they were getting was from the abuser. The victim needs to be far away from the abuser and time to heal before in a serious relationship again. The victim needs to find herself and keep busy with other things at least for a while. When she realizes she is actually a person with thoughts and feelings and she cares enough about herself and it's okay to be that person and be herself, then and only then can she find someone who feels the same way about her....
2006-09-13 11:54:21 · answer #2 · answered by mother_flower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sooo sick of hearing people with your same attitude saying this about abused women. Until you are an abused woman you will never ever understand. I grew up watching my mother get beat on night after night after night....And why did she allow herself to keep getting beat on?? Because my father, her first husband, beat her and verbally abused her, cut her down to nothing and she no longer thought she was worth anything more than that. She had no self-esteem left, she felt useless to the outside world. Was she scared? Heck yeah she was scared, scared to stay with the abusers, but still afraid to go it alone...afraid of what would happen to us if she didn't have a place to live when she left...afraid that no one would ever want her because of the horrible things the abusers told her. You take a human soul and you torment it...you take a body and beat it until you no longer feel because of the numb, you take a person and treat them like a dog, like a second class citizen, like someone who matters to no-one and watch how they break....watch how they lose touch with who they "were"...watch as they fall apart from the inside out and become just a shell....you watch as the very life of a woman is sucked from within her by his abusive hands and words and see what she becomes....in her eyes....a nothing. And then wonder why she doesn't leave?? Because she can't.....mentally, physically, emotionally she is crippled with fear, shame, regret, worry, confusion and so much more. It's not their fault they don't leave....it's way more complicated than most any one will ever understand....people tend to look at the outside picture only...he hit her, shes bruised, why doesn't she leave?!? You haven't a clue as to the "prison" the abusers keep their victims locked up in their minds...they ruin them. And no one deserves to be beaten, no one!!!
2006-09-13 11:51:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some are scared to leave of what they might do to them or there children, some men are sick in the head.
I was in a abusive relationship but i learned to get the hell out. i told my self that he can not love me that much to put his hands on me. He could not love his children to do to me.
2006-09-13 11:46:48 · answer #4 · answered by SAMNANTHA S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your an ***. most girls stay out of fear or low self esteem. You try leaving a someone who has threatened the life of your children or other loved ones,see how quickly you pack your bags,I bet the threats would put second thoughts in your head, you little prick
2006-09-13 11:46:36 · answer #5 · answered by moontreefairy76 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. They think they have the ability to change.
2. They are just afraid they might get beaten up again for deciding to leave.
3. They think their boyfreinds might think they are leaving for another.
2006-09-13 11:48:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dear take it for what it is but if you have never been in the situation how can you judge?...Ive been there and you have no idea what we have to go threw to try a get out .....your every move is controlled by a jerk for lack of better word ...until you have walked in our shoes plz don't judge unless you like to be judged
2006-09-13 11:47:14 · answer #7 · answered by angeleyes3605@yahoo.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ITS BECAUSE THEY ARE USUALLY THREATENED THAT IF THEY LEAVE THEY WILL BE HUNTED DOWN AND THAT THEY WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO GET AWAY AND ITS EMOTIONAL ABUSE SO AFTER AWHILE YEAH THEY DO FEEL LIKE THEY DESERVE IT- AND NO THEY DO NOT DESERVE IT! SO GET THAT OUT OF UR HEAD.
2006-09-13 11:45:12 · answer #8 · answered by mmackie08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one deserves to be beaten by anyone.some girls believe that one day that person will change.Or sometimes they're just too afraid to leave because they think that person may hurt them.
2006-09-13 11:44:53 · answer #9 · answered by DiamondXxx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would smac the guy right bac, hard, rly hard, girls are to be respected, just like guys. if a guy even dares to hit me (like thats gonna happen) i'd smack em right back. so i dont know wer u got that idea but....thanks for the points =D lol
2006-09-13 12:20:12 · answer #10 · answered by angelpinkgal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋