Our parents died about 8 days ago! Now me and my brothers and sisters are taking it pretty hard! My youngest brother won't talk to us and we don't know why! We can't see a doctor cause there's no way to get him to one! After my parents died he just didn't say one word to us. So please can anyone just talk to him, I don't think he understands what happened to our parents! I don't know if he knows what the word die means! can anyone help me out! I know that my little brother is young, but i can't find any other help for him. He's smart for his age, very smart. He knows how to use a computer and he just learned how to spell and read and all that. so please can anyone just talk to him cause I also noticed that he talks to people on the computer so maybe someone could try to talk to him, if you want to, then e-mail me and tell me about yourself, then i'll give you his e-mail, thanks to all those who help!
2006-09-13 11:20:14 · 8 answers · asked by Logan M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm really sorry for your loss. It sounds like your little brother is under 5 years old. I don't think any amount of talking is going to give him the understanding that he needs to deal with his pain. Just be there for him, give him lots of love, talk to your minister and doctor for advice on helping him.
When my nieces father, both grandfathers and a grandmother died within a very short time of each other, her children did not deal well - she took them to a child psychiatrist and it seemed to help.
The best wishes to you and your family.
2006-09-13 11:25:59 · answer #1 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that you're always there to talk, and he'll come to you when he feels the time is right. Give him as many hugs and kisses, as much love you can show him you're there and that you care. Leave little snacks or something for him that you know he likes so he'll feel at least a little better. Also, it helps like when he goes back to school to carry something in his locker or maybe even in his pockets that will remind him of his parents...its as if they will be with him. Just let him come to you guys in his own time, but if you notice any weird behaviors or feel really compelled for some reason to get him to open up - make sure you do it.
You guys are in my thoughts and prayers and I hope for the best. I'm very sorry for your loss.
2006-09-13 18:37:53 · answer #2 · answered by newyorkrose9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear of your sudden and dramatic loss. Best wishes to you all.
Yes, trama like that and seperation is likely. How old is your brother and your family? I would like to help. I know that he will feel seperation and not really know why...You will best help him for the moment by comforting him hugs, reading to him daily, spending time with him doing things that he like to do, even though he may not speak for now. It's okay for now, if he is not speaking, as long as he is functioning like daily routine things.
As long as he is not physically harming himself or others and just goes with the flow. Don't pressure him to talk, he will in time. Just let him see you guys in daily activities.
I'm in the medical field and have a family with teens. And I work with patient and help them to get back into the game of life.
2006-09-13 18:40:14 · answer #3 · answered by Dale S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend some special alone time with him and then maybe after awhile he will talk to you. You can also try asking him questions when you are alone but most importantly let him know that when he is ready to talk that you are ready to listen and answerany questions that he may have.
2006-09-13 18:30:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww wow. thats a tough situation for a kid that age, my grandmother died when my little cousin was about his age too..i could help!
2006-09-13 18:25:11 · answer #5 · answered by yeaa, thats her.. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him be, he is dealing with the death of his parents. this is going to take some time. he may be young, but he'll adjust quick.
2006-09-13 18:24:09 · answer #6 · answered by Ms Berry Picker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now just give him some space.
2006-09-13 18:33:37 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for you loss.
2006-09-13 18:22:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋