How do I tell him that it's over?

Answer 1

just start to talk to him and tell him that is over

Answer 2

Be sure you mean it and that you're not just using it as a way to get something you need that you're not getting at the moment. I do not suggest for a second that you are playing a game, but just be sure that its really what you want, and that your need for it to be over is not a mask for something you feel you don't have a right to ask for. If the relationship is worth working at, and there is something you need, then tell him that you need more of what it is, be it space, intimacy, respect, whatever and that if he doesn't try and help you to achieve that in the relationship, that you are pretty sure you won't be able to continue with it.

If you are sure that you want it to be over, there is never any easy way of saying it. Be sure in your own mind why you want it to be over, and tell him that it isn't working for you anymore and that you don't see a future together, so you feel you have come to the place where you need to go your own separate ways. If you're sure, don't let him talk you round, be certain of what you want and if he takes it badly and gets upset, just be gently assertive that you have no intention of staying in a relationshp that your heart is no longer in. Its up to you if you want to give him reasons, but this can often turn into a slanging match. If he gets angry or abusive, leave, right away, and do not contact him. Sure he will only be lashing out because he's a) hurt, b) wounded pride, but that is no excuse to make you the brunt of his emotions, then thank God that you got away from someone so readily able to lose control for someone he professes to love.

Whatever he does, however he may try and get you back, never go back out of guilt. He will become more and more insecure as he will realise you are not truly committed and you will become ever more resentful. I wish you luck, its never a nice place to be in, but for the best if you are sure.

Answer 3

There is never a good way to say goodbye but buying time also don't help matters because he needs to get on with his own life so maybe he can find someone that truly loves him ,tell him ASAP an let him start getting over a bad relationship and maybe his life will become healthier with another woman that does love him.

Answer 4

As soon as you are convinced it is. Seriously, talk to every close to you who you can be honest with and tell them how you feel and why. If they're good friend they'll listen and be able to tell if you're being honest with yourself. You'll either come to the conclusion that you haven't been seeing the wood for the trees and there's more left in the relationship than your thought or you'll decide you were right and talking to someone else about it will clarify your thoughts and give you the strength to tell.

Answer 5

I think most people would tell you its better to say it face to face. That's fine if he is not the type of guy to get extremely upset or perhaps even violent. You have many options, a letter, a phone call, a text, an email, or that face to face meeting. Only you can know whats right, you obviously value this guy otherwise you wouldn't be worried about how you told him.

Answer 6

The chances are he already has a good idea it's over but hard as it is you need to be clear about your reasons and be kind when telling him. You may be breaking his heart so there is no real need to be brutally honest and make him hurt more. The "it's me, not you" can work well.

Answer 7

Depending on what kind of guy this is. You may go have coffee at Dennys or somewherer neutral where you will both tend to be in control of emotions. Speak softly and keep that up no matter what. Be nice. No need to be mean and spiteful. Parting should be clean and amicable. Don't bring any extra negative Karma on yourself. If you avoid tellling him it is not fair.

Answer 8

If you don't want a guy to be upset about you leaving then get another girl in the picture, even if you have to pay her..... you know someone that he has to fall back on. It might take a week, but you can leave as soon as he starts crushing.

Answer 9

Best to do it face-to-face. But you can always do it through email. Just tell him it is over between you and him. If he begins to badger you for reasons, ignore his questions and keep on walking.

Answer 10

Don't start a fight or even an argument. Be in control all the time, don't raise your voice or get mad. Explain to him that you don't want to hurt him, but you don't have any more feelings for him. Good luck.