how do i help the feeling of inferiority i get when i am getting intimate with my bf (who has slept with four girls).. when i am a virgin who has only given hand jobs so far?
weve been together almost a year, we havent had sex, he has never pressured me, he has never made me feel lower or inferior...it is something i feel myself. i guess bc i am competitive by nature and i want to be "ahead in the race".. i want to be the one with the experience and advantage..but i am in love with him so im not going to just leave him for a virgin to gain experience from --thats unrealistic
how do i get rid of the inferiority that i feel when we are getting closer to more sexual things?
ps i am not religious so please dont give me the sex-after-marriage stuff.
2006-09-13 11:09:04 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ok, absolutely no one has actually answered the question.. how do i make the feelings of inferiority go away? i really dont care if YOU think hes worth it.
i am 18.. i just want my first time to be with someone i care about AND THE REASON WHY I HAVENT HAD SEX is bc i feel inferior to my bf for some reason.. so help me!
2006-09-13 11:17:05 · update #1
ps he knows i am a virgin, he knows he makes me feel inferior and he feels awful bc he knows he cant do anything about his past
2006-09-13 11:18:27 · update #2
hey girl
these people dont read or understand
Realize that the first time you wont be a pro and there will be someminor problems- within a few weeks, youll be rocking his world- be happy he has some experiece as someone has to know what to do, Many women feel losing it is a step that you need to get behind you.
Enjoy it and enjoy your future.
2006-09-13 11:20:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, first of all if your bf doesn't have a problem with it, neither should you. Don't do anything you're not ready for, because in the end, you're the one that's going to feel bad because you were only trying to do it to make a point. I think it's great that your bf isn't pressuring you. He must really love you. If he's willing to wait, then so should you. You have your own answer, because the cards are in your hands, play them the way you want to, when the time is right and you are ready you'll know it and make it special not something you will regret for the rest of your life.Your bf is special, so hold on to him, it's hard to find good guys. He knows you're worth the wait, so wait it out and remember when the time comes, you'll know it. MAKE IT SPECIAL AND ALWAYS YOUR CHOICE... NOOOOOO PRESSURE. GOOD LUCK!!!!!
2006-09-13 11:21:03 · answer #2 · answered by brownshuga91 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid I have to answer your question with a question:
Why don't you want to have sex?
You didn't include your age in your question, which would affect my response. If you are under 18 I'd say waiting is a very very good idea for the simple fact that most kids are stupid when it comes to sex and they don't protect themselves or take any precautions. This world is overpopulated enough as it is.
However if you are a young adult, I'd ask you why you're holding out - no right or wrong, just what is your motivation?
FP
2006-09-13 11:13:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you have to learn about sex, is that sex, at least good sex, is not about power. It is not about being better than the other person. It is about being able to give in to your desires. As long as you see it something that a person can be good or bad at, you will be bad at it, no matter how much experience you may have. Great sex happens when you completely surrender to your emotions and desires.
Good luck on your first time :)
2006-09-13 11:56:42 · answer #4 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be proud to be a virgin. Do not rush into things. You will know when you are ready for the next step. Follow your heart. It is important you are in love with the partner to have sex with him. Do not do it because all the rest you know have done it.
First sex experiance is not gonna be the best sex of your life, you need to practise to become an expert. But you are gonna remebered it.
2006-09-13 11:18:04 · answer #5 · answered by pikapoka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooh, you are SO in the advantageous position! You just need to understand that, while, no, you are not the most experienced here, it is YOU who calls the shots. It's supply and demand. Virginity is in short supply, and the opportunity to "take" it from you is a highly desirable commodity. So, the key is, give it up just a tidbit at a time. You know, like, let him touch you there, let him lick you there another day, let him get off rubbing his penis on it still another day, and so on. Enjoy the sense of power!
2006-09-13 11:28:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the truth. Both a virgin and a guy with experience have up and down sides.
2016-03-27 00:14:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL HE SOUNDS LIKE A GOOD GUY A YR NO SEX AND NO PRESSURE FOR IT WAY TO GO. U NEED TO REALIZE IF U DO IT U CAN'T TAKE IT BACK. IF I MAY WHY ARE U WAITING (NOT THAT I THINK U SHOULDN'T U SHOULD) U SAID NOT RELIGIOUS (SEX AFTER MARRIAGE) SO IF THAT'S NOT Y I WONDER Y?
2006-09-13 11:16:50 · answer #8 · answered by ROSIE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, what a drama girl! well the way I see it you have 4 options:
1 tell him, you are virgin
2 don't do anything, and keep felling like that
3 have sex with other guy
4 talk to a friend of yours for advise
good luck!
2006-09-13 11:12:52 · answer #9 · answered by natalia k 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't pressuring you to have sex then why are you even thinking about having sex with him?
2006-09-13 11:12:17 · answer #10 · answered by Honey Eyez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋