I am in love with my girlfriend but we have been together since we were 18. I am 21 now and I feel like I need to experience other things on my own for a while before it gets to be too late. We are going to take a break right now and I would hope we find each other again, but I don't know if this has actually happened successfully before. We love each other and we don't want to have a relationship with anyone else, so I am hoping this works out. Any previous experience with this would be helpful.
2006-09-13 11:03:31 · 18 answers · asked by Big Timer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Clearly there are some bitter people before who have been dumped in this manner, however I don't want other girls. I just know that if I'm curious about my independence right now, I will be later on as well. I would rather take the time to explore it now rather than waiting.
2006-09-13 11:40:26 · update #1
I went through the same thing you did; I am a woman.
My boyfriend of many years and I took a break... it only lasted a month.
A break will either "break you or make you." During the break you either realize the two of you are inseperable, you will miss eachother, not want to be with anyone else, and end up going back to one another because you love eachother so much.
Or, you may realize that there are better things out there for you and that the realtionship that you had is not what you're into anymore.
As for my boyfriend and I, we broke and came back to eachother because our love was so strong we couldn't stand being apart... we just needed that bit of time apart to regain appreciation for one another.
2006-09-13 11:06:26 · answer #1 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You will probably grow apart. It's not impossible that you'll get back together again, but if you are both pursuing paths on your own they tend to go off in different directions.
When you strike out with a partner by your side, the decisions you make tend to take the other person's likes and dislikes into account. That way the paths you both follow will be similar.
And if you're only 21... We'll see - just don't hold your breath.
FP
2006-09-13 11:06:58 · answer #2 · answered by F. Perdurabo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
taking a break sounds like a good idea. I know it sounds trite, but if it's meant to be, it will still be there in the future. you don't want to find yourself wondering if you settled down too young, or before you met enough people to really know for sure. so many things change for people between 20 and 25, and what seems perfect now may not be what you want and need in five, ten, twenty years. how else will you know?
2006-09-13 11:08:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Want to experience other things = want to try sex with other woman. No once you break up with a girl to try new girls it is usually over. She will find a man who appreciate and loves her with out the need for other woman. While you are exploring your options. Then you will realize she is the best you ever could of had and she will be planning her wedding.
2006-09-13 11:09:05 · answer #4 · answered by Suesan W 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes there is high chance of that happening, my best friend is been with her husband for 12 years and they were on a brake for about a year, were seen different people and doing all the things they tough they couldn't do together, and at the end she told me that there was no one that compared to him, she was just too blind to see that everything she wanted and was looking for was right there in front of her, like that saying you never know what you have until is gone!! so good luck and hopefully it'll work out for you too!
2006-09-13 11:11:21 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♥♥♥♥ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Similar type of thing happened to me..........I was with a great guy for many years ...then i wanted a break.......i felt like i had been missing out on life. We seperated for a year - after I saw that it wasnt that great out there and that others couldnt compare to him, I went back and we worked it out - i realized and appreciated him way more.........the end of this year we are celebrating 16 yrs of being together.....but its nice to have a little freedom to appreciate each other -- which we do.....i go with girlfriends once in awhile and he does the same. Trust is key.
2006-09-13 11:12:10 · answer #6 · answered by honeyinthelexus 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it will work out. Just think maybe both of you will end up having fun with someone and fall in love. However, I did that. Me and my ex broke up after 7.5 years. Then I decided to give it another try. I loved him afterall. However my feeling did change for him. I still deeply cared and loved him. But not the same anymore. He tried really hard, but it wasn't the same anymore. I had to move on.
2006-09-13 11:10:29 · answer #7 · answered by Susa 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes if it is meant to be it will happen. But also if you were really in love with each other you would want to experience these things together.
2006-09-13 11:07:19 · answer #8 · answered by xeson1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only faith you can rely on is that what is meant to happen, will happen. If it doesn't, there is something and someone better in store for you and for her. (even if its unfathomable now). Just go with the flow. Life is all about experiences. Perhaps the life you shared with your gf is to aid you in future experiences. Always think positively. :) Good luck.
2006-09-13 11:09:41 · answer #9 · answered by Liz^24 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes...i am now married to the man i dumped when i was 18..... i had a lot of issues going on right then...it had nothing to do with him really why i broke up with him... i was in a lot of emotional pain..... anyway....he really loved me and never stopped..... he got married...i got married.... we both got divorced.... we tried a long distance relationship in 94 that didn't work out...... i got married again...and after almost five years of marriage with James being my constant friend and confidante....i told my exhusband that i had to leave him.....and i moved to be with James who had proposed to me and he adopted my oldest two children and we are together very happily 6 years later... with my other two husbands i was miserable before the first year was done....
he is my soulmate.... and neither time nor distance nor other people mattered in the end....
2006-09-13 11:09:27 · answer #10 · answered by myheartisjames 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋