My "Fiancee" and I always fight. He thinks he can be gone all day on his days off, not help me clean or cook.. But when we fight he screams, pushs me he has kicked me and punched me...I was attempting to grab his balls though. He has broken like 5 cell phones, let the air out of my tire and practically broken anything glass, thrown dressers. I am scared and I always cry and he hates me for crying what do I do... It is hard to see my situation from the inside view!
2006-09-13 10:38:12 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, u are in an emotionally/physically abusive relationship. You're lucky u haven't tied the knot yet as u have a chance to run as far away from him as u can before u end up killing each other.
2006-09-13 10:44:38 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you joking. Its healthy if you consider possibly being murdered one day while hes in a anger fit of rage because you talked to some guy who asked you what time it is. It starts out will small stuff and they work their way up from that. So kicking and punching will turn into choking and biting and lord knows what else. If you have kids, or will have them one day they will see all of this, then tell someone at school and they will be taken away because you are in a extreemly unhealthy relationship. That is if he doesnt beat the child out of you while pregnant for what ever reason. Grabbing balls doesnt deserve a violent reaction. Ive actually been stupid enough to HIT IN THE FACE a man i was with once a long long time ago and he didnt hit me back. He was a gentleman. Although I think i deserved it lol. You need to get away. If you are scared then thats your answer right now. Shouldnt have to fear someone you love. Good luck
2006-09-13 17:47:46 · answer #2 · answered by no name 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your Fiancée is gone all day on his days off, that means he do not love you enough like he should, so the relation will not work, so get out. And I do not know his side of the story; the problem might also be you, not only him.
To break things shows he is violent, so again get out.
For what you said, the only time he was violent with you, it was in self defense because you where attempting to grab his balls in the first place, which can be very painful and dangerous!
Everyone here are immediately on your side, even men, that is only because you are a woman.
Again, it will not work, so get out, and find someone more compatible with you, and try to chance if anything wrong with your behavior. Good luck.
2006-09-14 02:30:10 · answer #3 · answered by miniboi6666 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO thats not a healthy relationship. Anytime there's domestic violence, you should leave the relationship. Playful hitting is okay, but not while your arguring! He's breaking things such as cell phones and glasses, who knows what hes gonna break next...it could be your ARM or your LEG! You probably do love him, but yall should go to consuling or you should end the relationship before its the end of you.
2006-09-13 17:41:25 · answer #4 · answered by Sexiiness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid!!i know its easier said than done b/c ive been there but these situations dont get better only worse meanwhile your self esteem is being trampled on - how would you feel if a friend/sister was going through this?what advice would u give them?theres somebody better out there for you like there was for me u just got to be brave enough to end it with him and find someone who will love you and treat you the way you deserve good luck!
2006-09-13 17:44:50 · answer #5 · answered by sarah71397 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your in a VERY unhealthy relationship and you need to get the h*ll out of there ASAP. You don't deserve to be pushed or kicked or punched!!! Why would you stay with someone who does these things to you??? Because you love him??? NOOOOOOOOO love is NOT abuse, physical or verbal. IT'S ABUSE, bottom line. Get out of there and find someone who will respect you, cause he sure doesn't.
2006-09-13 18:40:36 · answer #6 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time don't grab the balls, kick them. That'll teach his sorry *ss. Tell him, one more violent act and it's over, and that's probably not even wise. You should just leave him. Men don't hit women (unless they are told to by the woman)- that's a Man law.
2006-09-13 17:45:51 · answer #7 · answered by Sausage Fingers™ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out and get out now! you are in a abusive relationship and it isn't healthy, and can get worst, you could be sent to the hospital or to your grave. Find a support group and leave this bad situation.
2006-09-13 17:42:16 · answer #8 · answered by Brezzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from that jackass! Next time he touches you call the cops and put him where he belong. His behavior will only escalate and you will end up getting very hurt. Sell the ring use the money to move on!!
2006-09-13 17:42:12 · answer #9 · answered by rouble ( 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, this is not healthy and its probably only going to get worse. If you dont like his behavior now you will like it even less in the years to come. Its probably best you break this engagement or get pre-martial counseling. Things will only get worse if you guys dont do something to fix it.
2006-09-13 17:44:39 · answer #10 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋