husband went to prison,i waited for him 2half yrs.now that his home i find it differcult to get on now. i see him like a stranger.
2006-09-13 10:35:58 · 24 answers · asked by bell 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i feel you are talking about me,i have to wait a year have done 6 and half now(months) ,i am waiting for him i know i will have to face same thing as you and i dont know how its going to be. i am use to my own space and getting on with things in general. its not easy you get the looks and people pretend they havnt seen you and im not the criminal he his and hes in prison for me ,making things right the only way he can.i will stand by him we have done 15 yrs. i see my husband every week i am lucky because of friends who take me the long journey and make it possible.we write every day but sometimes get letters all at once and then think eachother hasnt written thats horrible. if you keep the comunication open between you both thats what keeps you together and strong.sometimes i have bad days were i cant cope and i am more bothered what other people think well sod them they dont pay my bills ,if they want to be narrow minded let them. 25yrs is a long time its a good part of your life and you must have something special to be in it for so long.my only thing i can say to you is listen to yourself not other people and family and do whats best for you. this moment in time my husbands best for me and i will be seeing him tomorow cant wait. good luck.
2006-09-13 11:04:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 25 year marriage ends like any other. You say goodbye and leave, or tell him to go.
I wonder how long he has been home?
Maybe it will get better?
I split with my husband after 25 years, he didnt go anywhere but he looked different, 'like a stranger' I cant explain it. I would look at him and know it was the same face I used to love but somehow he really looked different to me. When he touched me it felt strange too.
We said goodbye, it was painful and protracted.
I am much happier now but it took a while and impacted on other people. I felt very guilty for a while.
My advice- be sure then be selfish and do it.
2006-09-13 10:42:45 · answer #2 · answered by cate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Twenty five years is a long time to be married. I can appreciate how you feel, maybe you would do well to take a second honey-moon if possible and try to get to know each other again. Maybe marriage counseling might help a little? You have to be very clear and direct with your husband as mixed signals will make things harder for him, and you as well. Be certain that this is what you really want and good luck to you.
2006-09-13 10:48:45 · answer #3 · answered by Porterhouse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it. with no one around or in a out of the way public place if you don't feel safe. Tell him how you feel and how you think he has changed. Tell him if there is something that he can do to make things better. This is alot like going to war for him. You do come back different.
2006-09-13 10:40:57 · answer #4 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lady i do not know what too tell you just hang in there a little longer and see what happens maybe things will change for you and you will not want a divorce give it a chance before making that kind of decision i really hope things work out for the best for you and your husband
2006-09-13 10:43:17 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You waited, and grew and changed. He probably changed too. You shouldn't just throw your marriage away. He had something special about him before that meant something or you wouldn't have been with him so long. Talk to a counselor with and without him. Talk to him. Get to know him again. Be honest with yourself and him. Good luck.
2006-09-13 10:42:12 · answer #6 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple. Just tell him things are not the same and you are unhappy. You thing its best if y'all were apart for awhile. Be ready to leave when you say this and do it. After your apart you will know if you want him back or a divorce. If a divorce just have the papers sent to him.
2006-09-13 10:41:26 · answer #7 · answered by xeson1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine your first sentence, regrettably is slightly delusional. My spouse and that i are in love. you adore your spouse, yet her love for you is in question, actually. i might want to imagine in case you approached the difficulty flippantly and defined that you're feeling uncomfortable which includes her spending a lot time with an ex and a lot less time with you that she might want to be recognize-how and the both considered one of you would possibly want to artwork by it without finishing a wedding ceremony. a wedding ceremony is outfitted on have self belief and takes demanding artwork as you nicely recognize. i don't like her reaction that she might want to fairly throw away 25yrs of meant excitement for an ex fling. that would not make experience. perhaps you may compromise which includes her so as that she would not spend a lot time with him (i'm assuming) in any respect or workout recurring a fashion that you'll be able to spend extra time which includes her and develop into in the direction of her again. It feels like you want to bypass on some dates to re-light your romance or a particular holiday. something to remind her of your love for her, and what she might want to be giving up. contained in the top, you won't be able to make her stay with you, i'm sorry to assert, yet you won't be able to make the difficulty worse by employing putting strict demands on her more effective than what's wide-spread for popular living. it really is a difficulty that has deeper motivations than what's glaring and also you want to be affected individual yet agency in operating by this difficulty. educate her love and kindness and communicate which includes her about it. No ultimatums might want to be necessary, in spite of the undeniable fact that it really is extraordinarily unusual she might want to spend extra time with an ex than your self except she's taking you with no interest, in which case enable her recognize, kindly. sturdy success on your marriage. If all else fails, you would possibly want to prefer to attempt a wedding ceremony counselor that could want to really help you adult men get again on course like you probably did 25 yrs in the past.
2016-11-26 21:53:36 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell himn how you feel . you can bet he's feeling the same. maybe you need to spend some real quality time together away from your house. somewhere thats different for both of you.
2006-09-13 11:06:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I`m sorry this has happened to you get go know him i`m sure he has changed but if he is still the same i would divorce him asap
2006-09-13 10:40:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋