would you let your child write their dad in prison?

Question

we are divorced and shes wantingme to get her address but im afraid he'll get her hopes up and break her heart again..

Answer 1

My mother was in and out of prison until I was 29 yrs old. It took her way too many years to change her ways, but she finally did. Just so you know every day I looked in the mail box for her letters. It made me so happy to get one. Let her keep in touch, there is no harm done.

Answer 2

I am sure he will break her heart many times throughout her life, but if you don't give him a chance you will never know, I may be wrong and he may change but you do not want to be the reason 10 years from now that she does not have a relationship with him. Explain to her what the situation is and let her know no to get her hopes up to much. He is her dad and it would be wrong to keep her from him and vice versa. Even if she is young kids have a way of understanding complex things when explained.

Answer 3

Yes, If the child want to write I would encourage them to do so. If the father is any kind of person with love in his heart for his child it will give him reason to think about his life of crime and how it not only afftct him but every member of his family. The children will not hold back on their fathers and will ask them for real answers as to why they ( the fathers ) are not at home with them. I say absolutely, let them write and visit as well.

Answer 4

That all depends on many factors. What is he in for, when is he getting out. Her past relationship with him. Why does she want to write him, ect. But if he is her real father and she wants to right him, you should have very good cause to not allow such a request. Maybe you should convey your concerns to her in a very unbiased way. ALwyas keeping the childs best interest in mind.

Answer 5

depending on how old your daughter is, you need to tell her what you are feeling and let her know you are afraid that she will get hurt again. if she is adamant about writing, then allow her to write, otherwise you might end up looking like the bad guy.

if she is very young, she wont understand about the hurt that you are talking about, and she is entitled to know her father if he will write back.

good luck on your very tough decision.

Answer 6

Let her,but make sure she is prepared.Exlplain that he might not care,or might not write back and make sure she really wanmts 2,if she still insists,let her.It was her decision.But if she does get hurt,be ther 4 her right away.et her know that at least 1 of her parents cares

Answer 7

Yes I would let hert wright her dad I would go over the letter with her I would wright a letter of you own I would tell him not to lie to her or he will not like the out come

Answer 8

Of course they should be allowed to correspond! He's her father, she's his daughter, they have a right to maintain a relationship. If he screws up and lets her down, that's still better than her hating you for keeping her from having contact with him.

Answer 9

Yes i would. To deny this would only cause you problems later by being the one not wanting them to see each other. But it would be a very good idea to screen each of thier letters before seen by the other. It would also not hurt for you to write him a letter and let him know what you expect in return for her being able to do this (what to or not to put in his letters).

Answer 10

Well how did he break her heart the first time?? was it because of the divorce? Give him a chance with his daughter.