why do me n my fella constantly argue over stupid things and what can i do to stop it? i dont want to split up with him as i love him to bits but its really gettin to me now
2006-09-13 10:20:43 · 27 answers · asked by nutmeg696 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
why do u presume that its me thta starts the arguements??? i dont think it is to be honest.
2006-09-13 10:27:44 · update #1
We are a pain for the same reason that we are the best things in the world to you. You might not be (doubtful though) but I bet you aren't much else either.
2006-09-13 10:24:35 · answer #1 · answered by Chris cc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does give me the hump when women (and I guess men too) generalise and encompass all members of the opposite sex with questions like why are all men/women such a pain.
I'm not a pain, how could you possibly know whether I was pain to be with or not, you don't even know me!
Your man is a pain in your opinion because of whatever. He is one man. If you've been with other guys that have been pains then perhaps you should take more consideration and care in the men that you chose.
For years I have been in love with a girl called Jean and for years she has gone out with anyone/everyone else except me. She knew how I felt, yet the more I tried, the more she dug her heels in and resisted. In the end I got fed up and just walked away from her.
10 years later she got back in contact with me recently through Friends Reunited. I told her I still felt the same way and her reaction was that she'd been so miss treated by a succession of previous relationships that she's become a man hater and all men are bastards, so not only did I have to endure months and months of torment watching her go out with guys that just took her for granted, I found that now another opportunity has presented itself I'm now paying for every other guys abuse of her and it makes me sick!
So don't generalise and be careful what you say. I may meet you one day and really like you, but I'll be denied the opportunity of a relationship because you've already pre-decided that all men are pains and I've been tarred with same brush!
2006-09-13 11:49:01 · answer #2 · answered by statusquo44 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You argue because you have a difference of opinion. Between the two of you pick a word to say to stop the argument and give yourselves a cooling down period. Either of you can use the word at any time during the argument and you both have to stop.
2006-09-13 10:28:57 · answer #3 · answered by Red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont say what type of things you are arguing about. Maybe you just need to sit down and talk to each other. you could both tell each other what it is about the other person that makes you annoyed or argue. It may help
2006-09-13 11:09:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple, you have a very high opinion of yourself and you probably think you are right 90% of the time & you just have to make sure he knows it. Do you know how God created a woman? He started with a man, then took away common sence,and reasonability. Oh yeah, added 2 ballons and took away the kick stand. Poof!!!! there was WOMAN!!!! I hope this answered your question.
2006-09-13 10:29:38 · answer #5 · answered by Tanker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all began with the gods. Chronos sired Zeus. Who was Zeus' mother? Why is it I can't remember this?
Zeus sired plenty of children. Did they learn to respect their elders? Did they learn tact?
Maybe it was Pandora's box. When she opened it, all the troubles of the world came out, and we can never put them back in. Is men's behaviour one of these results?
Who created more havoc in the olden times? I think without a doubt, it was both men and women. So what are you complaining about?
Deal with it.
2006-09-13 10:25:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as a man, I know I can be a royal pain in the bum. However I have a very simple proposition for you to consider.
Are you giving each other enough space to pursue your own personal happiness? One of Sting's song titles sums up my idea, "If you love someone, set them free."
2006-09-13 11:35:36 · answer #7 · answered by Guy_in_Seoul 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men just think in a different way and there is nothing we can do about it. What is important to us is trivial to them and they just dont understand why we get upset over certain things. I dont think it will ever change, but if he is overall a lovely guy you are lucky.
2006-09-13 10:25:25 · answer #8 · answered by jean m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men see things differently and if they do not know the answer they do not admit it.
Often they use the "attack is the best form of defence" policy and if they think you are going to be off with them get their dig in first.
Try saying "Yes dear" to everything.
2006-09-14 10:04:00 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to be this way, I argued about everything, because I wanted to me right or have my way. He won't put up with this for long and why should he? Try to change your bad habit, and think about what it is you really want and why you argue about it.
2006-09-13 10:23:28 · answer #10 · answered by silver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋