why did my bf dump me???when he found out i was pregnant he said he loved me and i trusted him. I now i am 16 and he is 19 but still i really loved him and he was my first everything. My parents are giving me the silent treatment now that they know and they hate him.
2006-09-13 10:15:10 · 14 answers · asked by allison f 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I am so misreable without him
2006-09-13 10:15:41 · update #1
we were together for almost year and everything was fine till i got pregnant.
2006-09-13 10:22:57 · update #2
Hi Alli - I know how you are feeling because I was in your exact same position but it was 34 years ago - and at that time it was tougher because society didn't accept it let alone my parents. My b/f at the time walked away from me too and he was my first everything, school kicked me out (you just were not allowed to be pregnant and in school), and my parents stopped talking to me and started arguing about me.
Its a tough time but be strong - make some decisions for yourself and about what you want for your future and the future of your baby because those decisions belong to YOU - not anyone else. If you need someone objective to talk to there are councellors out there that are willing to talk to you so take advantage of that. Go to your school and ask for someone or your doctors office for references.
Take care of yourself and make sure you look after yourself - as you go thru your pregnancy get the medical attention you need as well. Listen to your heart - thats what I did in the end and never regretted it.
2006-09-13 10:37:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I can't believe you parents are giving you the silent treatment. They are supposed to be there for you. yeah, you made a mistake, if you feel it is, but this is something you will have to deal with 24/7, not your parents. Don't bother with him, he might come around or not, either way things will work out, trust me. Just take day by day. And before you know it everything will work out in your favor. And just relax, if you need someone to talk to just e-mail me @ ilovemycfnissan@yahoo.com. Good Luck!!!
2006-09-13 10:22:36 · answer #2 · answered by ilovemycfnissan@yahoo.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is scared, it just depends on what kind of guy he is. If he is a good guy he will be back and saying sorry for walking away like that. Your parents hate him so much right now because he got their daughter preg. which could or wont go away depends on how he treats you. Maybe he is just taking some space. How long have you two been together?
If he dont come around! Then dont forgive him for that even though you are hurting inside and miss him and feel miserble right now. What he is doing is wrong.
2006-09-13 10:20:52 · answer #3 · answered by mellow_26241 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 16 and 19 you are still children; however, your childhood is gone forever. You've fast fowarded to adulthood. Ever wonder why there's so much talk about preventing teen pregnancy? You aren't ready. It's kids having kids. He needs to be a man and sounds like he's chosen to be a mouse. He isn't the type of person you want to have around if he's acting this way.
2006-09-13 10:28:18 · answer #4 · answered by swomedicineman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie, you have been taken for a ride. I know you are scared and lonely right now but you have decisions to make. Are you going to keep the baby or give it up? If you are keeping it, then get up and start being responsible by letting the baby's daddy know, you didn't make it on your own and he better step up to the plate or he will be court ordered to help support the baby he doesn't think he wants. Also, let him know that at 16 you are under age and well if he doesn't want to play nice, he can be charged and jailed.
2006-09-13 10:25:13 · answer #5 · answered by k s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all he dumped you because he is a JERK! Second, isn't that date rape considering your under 18? You shouldn't be having sex but obviously its too late for that.
Now you need to try and talk to your parents, i'm sure they are upset and might need time to soak in the news but, they are you're parents and they will be there for you. You need to forget about the b/f and take care of yourself.
Good Luck
2006-09-13 10:22:51 · answer #6 · answered by jakesmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is afraid of commitments.
You're just 16 and he is really still a baby at 19.
There are hundreds of thousands similar cases out there.
Remember : The hunter hunts his prey till he gets it.
Sorry for you, but this is the reality.
Wish you luck - and your unborn.
2006-09-13 10:20:09 · answer #7 · answered by aheneghana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's too young to deal with a baby, and so are you. That's why he's bailing. Hopefully you'll learn from this experience because you can't change a guy and you can't trap a guy. The only person who gets hurt in the end is the baby. The baby should be the only thing on your mind--- not HIM.
2006-09-13 10:19:53 · answer #8 · answered by Mommy2Liam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he thought at that moment it was a joke! ..ask him if he like to continue this responsibility with U, if not Dump him too and never let him see your baby,
your parents trusting U and giving U a chance to choose your future by your self any think will tell U U shall blame them later ..
do your position and tell them what to do and show them that U need their help .
2006-09-13 10:31:57 · answer #9 · answered by me3laki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you are in love with an immature person. This is a very common story. Just look at Maury. Anyway there is help out there for you. This should be a happy occassion for you. Please don' t let tha fact that he's gone make it a miserable one
2006-09-13 10:21:15 · answer #10 · answered by hotrod luvin princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋