I need a moms opinion?

Question

would you be mad if your daughterwent out and bought a bra for the first time without you

Answer 1

Not at all. As long as it wasn't one of those ones with the holes in the middle of the cups.

Answer 2

No, I wouldn't but maybe she think you wouldn't want her to buy one. How old is your daughter? Most girls want their moms with them the first time they buy one. Maybe she has other friends that wear bras and talked her into get herself one. Did you ask her why she didn't ask you to go with her to buy a bra, and tell her since you are her mother you would have like to be with her for at least the first time, so you could see if it fits her right or the best kind for her age!

Answer 3

Time for the first bra came before they were old enough (in my opinion) to go shopping alone. If it happened, though, I wouldn't be mad. It can be a sensitive subject and you should let her deal with it in the way that makes her the least uncomfortable.

Answer 4

I had to beg my mom to take me!!! I wanted one (even though i didn't really need it at the time) so she took me. I am sure, though, that she would be upset if I bought one without her.

Its just one of those things.. Like, starting your periods. My sister didn't tell either of us when she did and we were both really sad. My mom bought me a necklace when I started my periods to congratulate me for "becoming a woman" but didn't get to share that with my sister.

Buying your first bra is similar to this... it's something you shoudl share with her! She will be able to help you find something that fits well. :)


Oh, Ididn't know if you are the mom or the daughter, but I hope you can understand my answer. Sorry if it's confusing..

Answer 5

No, why should you be? Some people are very private people, even daughters.
Maybe she's embarrassed, or a bit scared of growing up, or that you'll make a huge deal out of it (and tell everyone from her father to her little brother to your great Aunt Ninny).

You just need to set that irritation aside and tell her that if she has ANY questions about growing up, she is totally free to ask you and that you will absolutely keep her confidences.

Answer 6

No I wouldn't be mad. I'd be a little dissapointed, that she didn't feel our relationship was close enough for her to involve me in this. And I guess, I'd also be discontent with myself for not managing to gain my daugther's trust.
None the less, no matter what my daugther did, I'd always love her, that's what it all comes down to; everything else is just passing.

Answer 7

no. there is no way you can get mad about that. the girl might not want to talk about it, or she might feel shy asking questions, or she might not want her mother to butt in. there are some things we have to learn how to do for ourselves, and this is one of them. if she wanted my help, ok. if not, ok too.
if the girl makes a good choice, good for her. if she makes a bad choice, and it doesn't fit properly, especially if it is too tight and it rubs, then she will probably bring the subject up and that will give mom a chance to offer advice and assistance.

Answer 8

No way i would not be mad, i think if they want to do it by themselves then let them but if they need a little help they will come to you.

Answer 9

I wouldn't be mad, but my feelings would be hurt that she didn't include me. I at least want to be the driver to the store, since I'm sure I'll be giving her money to buy it.

Answer 10

no, I wouldn't be mad but I would feel disapointed that she didn't want to share that with me. Not disapointed in her but kind of left out, like when my second daughter told her sister and not me when she got her periods.