My husband has been a very selfish man, cheating drugs lying leaving me hitting our kids breaking all his promises and only thinking of himself,did I do the right thing?
2006-09-13 10:07:51 · 25 answers · asked by ~SSIRREN~ 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
he's not on drugs now but has been in the past. We've been married for 10 years and I've suffered depression for 8 of those years, and now my 10 year old son is suffering the same.
2006-09-13 10:14:49 · update #1
NO JOKE, I just ended it today.
2006-09-13 10:15:37 · update #2
Yes you did!!!!!!!!!!You have 5 children to think of and it will only get worse,trust me I am 47 and unless he gets off the drugs he will continue to lie and be abusive,he chose drugs as his new family,if he seriously gets clean than see from there!I am here for you always!!!!
2006-09-13 10:10:08 · answer #1 · answered by Cherokee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you have told us, you certainly have made the right decision. And, yes, it is so hard to make that decision.
But look at it this way: you have just changed your future - your entire life from now on, and that future is very much in your hands. From here on, you can do - or be - whoever you want to be. There will be many great times ahead for you - just be as positive as possible, and choose wisely.
Example, four years ago I was lonely. I wrote down all the qualities I wanted in a woman (wife). Within 2 months I met Celia and fell in love. Then it hit me - she was everything I had written down. It was as if I had designed her. Amazing but completely true. We are now married and life is bliss.
So I wish you the best getting thru this horrible phase in your life. And I encourage you to look ahead with courage and optimism.
Go girl go.
2006-09-13 10:18:25 · answer #2 · answered by Rex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow we are going through the same thing, thank you for your answer on that other question about me. My husband has not been doing drugs or hitting anyone or cheating, but the other stuff...hurts. It's a long story, thank you for sharing yours. And yes I think you did, if it's what you know deep in the core of your being, then it is right. Today for me as well, or rather, last night leading into today. I'm here for you if you need me.
2006-09-13 10:18:41 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ Luveniar♫ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry to hear this. Whatever happened is unfortunate & I can understand how tough it has been for you to make this decision. If a relationship is not working it is better to move out of it. So I think you have made the right decision. May God give you the strength to bear all this & bless you with a more caring & loving man.
2006-09-13 22:45:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you did and lets hope you made the right move.As allot of other people said here.You must first go 2 the friend of the court and try 2 get child support to start asap.And if he is that abusive you better get a ppo out on him for you and the children sake.Good luck and god bless you and the kids.
2006-09-13 10:17:25 · answer #5 · answered by stevens_monroe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you for doing what you have to do. It's a hard decision to make but you know it's the right one. I've been in a similar situation where the kids and I just dreaded the minute he came home. It's not easy financially but the peace of mind that you will have is so very worth it. Good luck to you.
2006-09-13 13:01:04 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Kiedis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are doing the right thing, not only for yourself but for your children. I read your 360 page; it is very sad.
You have sacrificed (been dead) for eight years of your life. Now is the time to live, live for yourself and live for your children. You work hard, you're a good, loving person, and you deserve so much more -- not just from that pond scum of a husband, but you deserve more from yourself.
Take your power back. Take your life back. Get rid of this pathetic parasite. I wish you luck. Be strong!
2006-09-13 21:30:11 · answer #7 · answered by S&S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You don't need to feel guilty, you and your children will be better off. Don't be scared, you'll make it just fine. You had the strength to stand up and now you just have to believe that you have the strength to keep walking. Get custody of the kids and take care of yourself. Congratulations! You've made a very positive change, you have my respect, just follow through. Peace
2006-09-13 10:18:01 · answer #8 · answered by Sager 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband did even just half of what you say then yes you did the right thing! Never let anyone treat you badly! NEVER let anyone hurt your children either. They are a gift from GOD! Keep them & yourself away from him!! Go to police if you have to. If the city of county police will not help go to the State Troopers they are not voted into their position! Do what is best for you & the children.
2006-09-13 10:16:13 · answer #9 · answered by staxi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you did. Kids learn what a healthy relationship is by an example. It is the only way they have to learn. Would you want any of your kids in your situation. Take time to heal yourself ( Mind, Body and Spirit) Good Luck
2006-09-13 10:11:55 · answer #10 · answered by Sophia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋