Do you find yourself paying child support, buying your kids clothes, goodies, movies, bowling, dinner etc.......and getting your children every weekend so that they are not dropped off somewhere because mom is going to work at night (going out actually) my x-does this to me every weekend...how about you ?
2006-09-13 10:05:33 · 8 answers · asked by Hammer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I talked to the attorney general of Texas and all they said that as long as my daughter had food, clothing and shelter they couldnt do anything........they said call the police and make a report but I dont want to bring the law into all this. I have asked her for custody and she said: "what and lose my benefits "
2006-09-13 10:15:28 · update #1
actually i do just the opposite i am the one who filed we each have equal control and thats the way it should be
2006-09-13 10:10:17 · answer #1 · answered by oraplepurnge 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm in the process of divorce and I am treated as a outsider in my child's life. My ex will pass off my child to anyone else except for me as a punishment. I have never refused to spend time with my child either. I take any time I can get to be apart of my child's life. The courts have no idea what is the best interest for the child is. I pay for my child's needs and child support too. Its all about power and control. One week after I was assigned child support she brought a brand new vehicle which happen to equal the amount of child support I was assigned to pay. So I know that the money is not going for my child. The courts are broken if they want to automatically assign a parenting coordinator to work out a reasonable shared parenting plan so both parents can share in their child's life that would be a good start. Instead of power and control to one parent vs. the other.
2006-09-13 11:13:24 · answer #2 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not a divorced dad but the mom. My ex is great about paying his support and yes he does do extra for the kids whenever he can and will take them extra weekends in the winter when he is off work, not because he has to or I expect it but becayuse he loves his kids. We worked it out among the two of us if he takes the kids an extra week in the summer I give him a certain amount of money back from the child support as far as the extra he does we don't keep track because we are about 50/50 there in what we spend. My husband however pays his ex wife $1200 a month they have two children under the age of 18 AND one of them lives with us. His ex gets the support based on two kids while we totally support the one and she pays nothing we are waiting on a court date now to try and get it straight through the courts but honestly that is all you can do, take her to court for joint or sole custody and a modification of support. I hate seeing a mother use their child as a tool to get money and admire the fathers who actually want to be a part of their kids lives.
2006-09-13 10:27:34 · answer #3 · answered by Martha S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a divorced dad but my husband is. My husband has to pay child support plus ALL of the kids doctor bills. Imagine paying for a child thats not even yours! Also Imagine the ex taking the kids to the doctor all the time b/c they sneeze or cough. There are 3 kids. 2 kids that are his 1 that is not. We have an extreme amount of doctor bills that my husband is required to pay for but we don't b/c we can't afford it. The state does not care whether you have money to pay for your bills or not. But they do however care about that child support that isn't even going to the kids b/c the kids are sent to our house in clothes that don't fit. She uses the money to buy herself things (cigs). Well thats what we are going through. With his last marriage the ex cheated and had a baby by another guy and since my husband signed the birth certificate (thinking & was told by her that it was his baby) and b/c the child was born during their marriage he therefor is the father even tho she went out and whored around. He pays almost $1,000 a month. We live pay check to pay check because of what that whore did. Its not my husbands responsibility to take care of that child that doesn't even belong to him. My husband had tried to turn the ex in for not having beds for the kids and they said all long as they have some where to sleep, blanket, pillow theres nothing they can do. But anyways in your case its sad that the mother puts the children off on you every weekend just so she can go out and do her thing. We had called the police on the ex one time about her harassing (calling constantly) all the time and they said theres nothing they can do. They always make the fathers out to be the bad people when they are actually some good fathers out there my husband is one of those good fathers and you of course for taking care of your children every weekend. I think when it comes to the children that every thing should be 50/50. It does take two people to make a child. But they just put it off on one parent to pay for all the needs. The child support services is in favor for the custodial parent. At least your getting your children every weekend and you know that they are safe when there with you. If she drops them off at where ever they may not be safe there. Keep up the good work your doing a fine job.
2006-09-13 10:42:24 · answer #4 · answered by BadAssGirlINWV 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not a divorced dad, but my husband is and we are in the same boat. My husband's ex works 2 jobs and finds plenty of time to hang out with friends, while we are taking care of the child. Don't me wrong I love my stepson to death, but I also know how important his mother is to him. She is pushing him farther away. My husband and I try to look at it this way. Let her live her life the way she wants, because the children know who was always there for them, and that to me is more important than any party. Keep your head high and put your children 1st always!
2006-09-13 10:18:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is what was happening to me and my husband. We did EVERYTHING while all his ex did was sit on her *** and collect support. We purchased EVERYTHING, fed them ALL their meals.
They should call it ex wife support because that is what 'child' support really is.
Keep detailed records of what you buy and how often you have them and anything extra you do. then petition for custody of your kids.
2006-09-13 10:11:05 · answer #6 · answered by Sunny And '74 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YEAH,14 YRS ONLY 1 YR LEFT !!!
2006-09-13 10:08:59 · answer #7 · answered by b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes I pay it all
2006-09-13 10:08:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋