Lots of victims of abuse live ignoring the fact of what has happened to them. It's simply, the past... But I know from experience that the night mares never seem to go away, that anything can trigger a memory such as a smell, a song, a place...and do many years have past I live in the fear that it may happen again to me or a loved one...
Please , help!
2006-09-13 10:03:38 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It was not a one time event, i can just forget. My first memory of been touched was at 10 and the last was just a day before my sweet sixteen.....no0w i'm neer my 30's and it still effects me....in my current relationship.
2006-09-13 11:08:05 · update #1
You said it best in your reply to my question. These forums really do keep an open line of discussion for survivors. Just stay open to sharing your experiences and talking with others. I, personally having started counselling because I have not been able to become involved in a intimate relationship for over 6 years. Look into counselling if you haven't already, and keep the discussion open... it's less of a burden to carry when we all share.
2006-09-14 08:10:25 · answer #1 · answered by Wren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was molested when I was 12 years old. I had an absentee father and a troubled home life. Molesters look for kids in these kinds of situations who are vulnerable. But I can honestly say that I don't feel that it affected me emotionally. I sympathize with women who say they were devastated by molestation but I don't entirely understand it.
I think being molested as a child is like anything else bad that happens to us, i.e., death of a loved one, becoming disabled, getting cancer. The fact that my father never really loved me enough to be around hurt me far more in life than some pervert putting his hands all over me. Children experience any number of traumatic situations. Some excell in life in spite of, if not because of, these occurrances. Yes, even molestation. Feeling like a victim in any situation leads to fear.
I would not be one of the people who would tell you to forget what happened in the past. But I would tell you perhaps there are other issues about yourself or your childhood that you are afraid to look at. And when you have control of them, that vulnerable feeling of fear will go away.
2006-09-13 10:45:02 · answer #2 · answered by helen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get counseling help from someone. Maybe a minister could help. I have a friend that was abused at 14. She does good and is successful. But many women have a hard time after being abused. She did. My friend describes it as having your soul destroyed. You need positive help. Always remember it was NOT your fault! Because of what happened in your past it doesn't mean it has to affect your present or future.
2006-09-13 10:11:15 · answer #3 · answered by jesus_lover1962 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really must have professional help. You have not come to terms with your trauma suffered yet, and until you do you will not live a normal life. Bless you heart, Look for your local community mental health department for where to go for counseling.
2006-09-13 10:16:03 · answer #4 · answered by diturtlelady2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you would call my life or my sister's life normal, but it is the past. Neither of us have nightmares about it, never had. We have accepted that it happened, we can't undo it. It is now only part of our life experience. But if you are experiencing these things, you should seek professional help.
2006-09-13 10:17:35 · answer #5 · answered by pessimoptimist 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I exceeded over it for a lengthy time period, and that i wasn't living a contented existence, regardless of the reality that to outsiders it regarded wide-spread. the whole difficulty is to get counseling, that may help you to enable bypass of the tiniest scrap of feeling that you probably did something incorrect. That develop into the toughest difficulty for me to get previous. I in basic terms knew in my heart that, at 5, i must have finished something very incorrect that led to this to ensue to me. (!) Somedays are extra sturdy than others, yet attending to renowned to forgive your self and love your self are the keys.
2016-11-26 21:50:42 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they must turn from being a VICTIM to becoming a SURVIVOR. therapy can help in this process. the past is over ..you can heal from it and move on. but, first you must face it, release it and then move on.
2006-09-13 10:14:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if the person get professional help.
2006-09-13 10:06:11 · answer #8 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋