I have been dating the same guy for 5 years and engaged for the first 3 years (with about a 6 month break-up within the last 2 years). Everything was great for the first 2 years but the last 2-3 have been hell. I was such a b**** to him because I was going through a lot of things and took it all out on him (althought part of this was due to his pushing back our future plans on several occasions). I am now back to normal and I have apologized and tried to make everything up to him. I really do love him and want things back the way they were. I do not know what else to do. He is acting weird but he told me he still loves me and always will. He also said that I am a major part of his life and have a huge impact on him. I do not want to lose him, he is the man I want to marry. Has anyone had this or something similar happen and can give me some advice.
2006-09-13 10:02:29 · 9 answers · asked by lady_reed_03 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do not get paranoid. Take his word for it and show him everyday that he means the world and more to you. I know that you are still struggling to believe that he has actually forgiven you, and that makes you fearful and you will see every little negative thing that he does or that happens to you both in future as the ultamate reason for him to leave you now. Take things really slowly now and make sure before you actually marry this guy.
2006-09-13 10:12:27 · answer #1 · answered by Loula 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off...I don't mean from him, I mean from trying to have the relationship discussions with him. Its time for you to put on a happy face, look cute and be fun to be around. (You know, how we all behave when we first meet someone). Get out and do things together (My boyfriend (5+yrs) and I go 4-wheelin, fishing, camping, canoeing) We have a great time together. You just need to remind him what a great woman he has and how lucky he is to have you without saying a word. In a few months you two should be back on the right track. Take the pressure off, don't point out to him he is acting "weird" or anything like that, and do not act paranoid or insecure. Good luck.
2006-09-13 17:36:36 · answer #2 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that you've shown how much of a b#$ch you can be, he can never think of you the same again. And he is always going to be waiting for the other shoe to drop you be a B&^ch to him agian for no good reason.
I will be a little surprised if he actually goes through with marrage. Every guy has been there and besides cheating there is nothing worse. Both things come down to disrespect.
2006-09-13 17:29:47 · answer #3 · answered by hankthecowdog 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK so you were a b****, so what. All women can be that way sometimes. He stayed with you through it all didn't he. I think the real issue here is you feel insecure because he keeps changing your future plans together. Sometimes you have to ask yourself, am I willing to spend the rest of my life with a man who hasn't really made a commitment to me? It isn't you, it is him. He needs to make a choice... to stay & commit or to move on. If he can't seal the deal you need to get out quick.
2006-09-13 17:09:39 · answer #4 · answered by k s 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to change your act for GOOD and how him what you MEAN when you say love.
Check up on that in 1 Corinthians 13-Love is patient, love is kind. Love is not jealous, boastful proud or rude. Love does not demand it's own way........
2006-09-13 17:06:05 · answer #5 · answered by Sunny And '74 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, it doesn't take five years to decide you are good for each other or not. Secondly, you dont hurt the ones you love. No excuses!
2006-09-13 17:36:42 · answer #6 · answered by lada725 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had exactly the same thing with a guy i really liked and cared for i was being bullied at work and turned in to a nut i took it out on him which was wrong...i have yet to hear back from him..its horrible isnt it
2006-09-13 17:05:53 · answer #7 · answered by mandy d 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are two sick puppies and should part before making each other more miserable. Five years!
2006-09-13 17:06:51 · answer #8 · answered by Hermit 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
pray
2006-09-13 17:04:19 · answer #9 · answered by bernie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋