as a child who grew up to be a very attractive and popular adult?
What contributed to the change?
2006-09-13 10:02:13 · 11 answers · asked by The Gadfly 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Yes, that would be me. I thought I was unattractive because I was once told so by another girl at school. I was shy because of the bullies at school and so felt unpopular.
It took alot of unravelling to find the real beautiful person underneath - that's ME.
What contributed to the change: hmmm......success with a banking career, a good sexual relationship and my ability to make people feel good when I give encouragement. I also did mediation and regression therapy to unlock some stuck emotions.
There is unfortunately a little voice inside that still makes me question my good self. It takes work.
2006-09-13 10:10:17 · answer #1 · answered by Mercury 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can't say there was a change in the "attractive" component, but in terms of shy, unpopular, clumsy, I made a big change. It had everything to do with a change in environment and a fresh start. Growing up you get categorized. Some get lucky and some just don't.
The problem as I see it, and it makes me smile now (I'm 44), is when I go to things like my class reunion, people still see me in the same light and mold as I was back in high school. And they try to keep me in that mold. I've come to realize, I'm not going to be able to do anything about that. In fact, I've come to see it as hilarious. I look at those I grew up with, I see where they are now and how they compare themselves to me and to others, they rarely see the person for who they are now. They see them through the glasses of the past.
In my current environment, I've been fortunate to re-establish myself and I enjoy who I am and the people around me. Its very different than when I was younger.
If you got off to a rough start, getting separation from those around you and re-establishing yourself, may be a great move.
2006-09-13 10:20:35 · answer #2 · answered by jb_cpq 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maturity is the biggest contributor. Bodies and minds change over time sometimes for the better and sometimes not. Attractiveness and popularity don't matter as much as adults as it does as children, esp the popularity part. The mental aspect is what really makes the difference. Mental maturity, we are what we think we are, genetics also plays a part but if you think and act as being ugly and unsociable, you will be to others.
2006-09-13 10:24:26 · answer #3 · answered by Steven T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm like that too. i'm additionally quiet and shy and characteristic a no longer user-friendly time achieving out to human beings. I recommend attempting to alter into his pal first and basically say hi every time you spot him. That way he would understand you exist and then maybe after sometime you will sense extra comfortable and be waiting to maintain on a communique with him. Then see the place that is going. you do no longer must be standard to get places in existence. in actuality this is extra effective to no longer be standard, they have an inclination to be those that lose out interior the tip. good success.
2016-12-18 09:48:31 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do. They got away from the high school idiots who made fun of them and became very successful and good lookin
2006-09-13 10:04:51 · answer #5 · answered by shizzlechit 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
dude, i knew this chick that was kinda homely and weird in high school. got outta there and began to take care of herself and now is a knockout with guys drooling all over her.
HOTTEE!
2006-09-13 10:10:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe Connie Chung was, and she made a great life for herself until . . . enough said.
2006-09-13 11:16:43 · answer #7 · answered by Hermit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most people come out of their shell after high school and i am an example of it.
2006-09-13 10:20:16 · answer #8 · answered by i ♥ my cat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tyra Banks. And look at her now
2006-09-13 10:09:46 · answer #9 · answered by madchiman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. Me.
2006-09-13 10:09:09 · answer #10 · answered by dirtmerchant_12b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋