My grandparents have been married for 60 years. They met in high school and married at 18. They are always happy, laughing and hugging, and its true happiness, not an act.
My parents have been married for 30 years and married at 20. They are very happy, sometimes bicker over their 4 children, but have always been very loving to each other.
Why can't people remain married anymore?
People say marrying young ends in divorce, but people married way young 30, 40, 50 years ago and they made it work.
What is wrong with our society? Why are people divorcing over stupid things?
My friend's wife wants a divorce after a year because she wants to go drinking with her friends (guys) and cheat instead of being a faithful wife.
Why is this so common?! No wonder why marriage is a joke now a days!
What has changed in our society that divorce is so high?
2006-09-13 09:45:13 · 33 answers · asked by HappyHippo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think people really think about it before they get married.
1. You will be with the same person every night
2. You usually don't go out and have very much fun with other people
3. End up fighting more because you are with each other 24 hours a day. Unless you work and then you fight when you get off.
4. Have to change your wardrobe because he says that those little shorts you wore when you first met make you look sluty.
5. Usually end up befriending any friends that you had that are of the opposite sex because spouse is jealous and thinks your cheatin.
There really are just to many things to list. You would be reading for days if I put them all down.
2006-09-13 10:00:34 · answer #1 · answered by Just_Curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe this started out a few decades ago when 'open minded' marriage counselors started recommending divorce to give people an easy way to stop fighting. They even said it would be better for the kids. After experimenting with our society for a while they realized they were dead wrong but it was too late to stop what they'd started. People are still quoting them to this day and think any excuse is okay to justify their selfishness. It also didn't help that women had been oppressed in this society long enough to make them stand up and demand some respect and equality. With these two things going on at one time it was bound to have disastrous consequences.
2006-09-13 10:29:56 · answer #2 · answered by DJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We live in a fast food society now and people fast foward their relationships, run down the aisle, then wake up a year later and realize that they don't know who they're married too.
Another problem is that people aren't honest about who they are and what they want (no one wants to be seen as shallow) so they end up married to someone that they really should have just dated for a bit.
And the third problem, as I see it, is that people don't realize that you have to work at a relationship even after the I Dos. We never learned what it takes to work at a relationship, because it's someone few people talk about. Which is funny considering how many self help books their are on relationships.
Plus it's so easy to get divorced. It took 90 days to end my marriage. I didn't have to go to court, I just hired an attorney, signed a document, and wrote out a check. If there's always that out, what's to make us work at keeping it together?
2006-09-13 09:50:55 · answer #3 · answered by LifesAMystery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many reasons, it's hard to pick just one.
Divorces are easy to obtain. It's more acceptable to be a single parent now too. Our attitiudes toward marriage are different now then they were 60 years ago.
I don't think people treat each other with respect any more. Not just husbands and wives but people as a society. When your grandparents and parents were raised there was a certain level of manners that a person was expected to have. That translates into relationships too.
2006-09-13 09:50:52 · answer #4 · answered by mjkinoh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've heard the number one reason for divorce these days is selfishness.
I also think it has become easier, and more culturally acceptable to get a divorce. That's great if your in an abusive relationship, but as you've noticed a lot of people are getting divorces for falling out of infatuation and other silly reasons.
It's wonderful that you have such wonderful examples of what a marriage should be in your family, I hope you pass that on!
Best wishes
2006-09-13 09:52:13 · answer #5 · answered by daisyk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
society has become more sexual then ever when sex was a thing between a man and a woman not a man another woman another man another woman open sexuaility is a big thing nowadays back then when ur grandparents were younger not so much info was given out and sex talk was so hush hush and not as explored ...another thing i have noticed being a married man is that some women tend to throw theirselves at you when they know you are married i don tunderstand that myself and i feel it is very disrespectful to my wife my kids and to myself ........people nowadays marry for the wrong reasons people get married when they don t even really know their partners and once they find out about the person they are ready to go...people marry for money ...divorce is so easy nowadays if they made it complicated with rules like you cannot get divorced unless you are married at least 5 years or so as long as their is no domestic violence involoved if they had requirements like this in order to get divorced i m sure many would rethink a foolish marriage
2006-09-13 09:52:01 · answer #6 · answered by glass_city_hustla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way these young people were raised would be part of it. Parent's thinking raising their child with less authority than with what they were raised , actually turned out teens/ young adults with little or no values, bad influences, and lack of respect for themselves and others. They all seem to have the same theory, as long as their own happiness is taken care of then who cares about the ramifications it could have on their partner/child/spouse. Faithfulness to a partner and spouse is very few and far between. When god is not in the lives of people but the devil, then a messed up life they lead. With no remorse.
2006-09-13 09:56:22 · answer #7 · answered by J P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that most people do not know their partner. they do not want to take the time to get to know them. Yes your grandparents married young, and in that time you did not have a choice you worked things out. Your parents married Young but I bet they knew each other for quite a while for their marriage to survive. Marriage takes a lot of work to keep it going, and be a success. Now a days it seams that no one wants to do the work, and give up.
2006-09-13 09:52:23 · answer #8 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people are not putting GOD first! Many people just don't have any morals these days and they have lack of commitment, and most people these days don't have respect for the vows that they took..just words to them. when a marriage hits rough times (which almost all marriages do) they find a divorce is easier than sticking through it..marriage can be hard work...but it's worth it if both partner work at it!
2006-09-13 10:33:47 · answer #9 · answered by katydid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are getting married now a days, cuz of the girl getting pregnant, or the parents pushed them into it, or for money, and other reasons. Peoples morals arnt what they used to be.
My parents have been married for 56 yrs and still act so in love.
2006-09-13 09:53:19 · answer #10 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋