cant tell my husband Im pregnant.?

Question

I posteed earlier, but this is very serious for me. I cant get it out of my mouth. He does not want more children, save your mouth ladies, then he shouldn't have made that baby with you.
Grow up. Do you really think we didn't take any precautions. ??????????
I just want to know if anyone has an idea how to release the news, which wont be good in his eyes (for now) because this is not what he wants .

Answer 1

I was so scared to tell my boyfriend because we agreed to wait a year and It was my fault because I stoped taking my birth control because it was making me sick. I just acted like I didnt know anything and told him my period was late but I wasnt feeling sick, he told me "maybe you are pregnant" and I took the pregnancy test with him he was spechless for hours but now he is happier than ever. You can tell him on the phone too that way you dont have to see his face and he'll have time to cool off alone

Answer 2

Hi there,
I know exactly what you are going through first hand. I was on birth control and everything. We weren't ready to have another child but then I went to the emergency and "Bam" "Ma'm, is there any chance you could be pregnant" "WHAT!!!" Well the last time I saw my husband was the last time we had sex. See he worked in a different state due to job oppertunities where we were.
Any how, this is how I did it: I went to go visit and asked him what would happen if I were pregnant. He told me that we would have to wait and see for that. then I told him well, protection is only 98.9% effective, and well I am in that 1.1% situation. He was upset and distant at first...but with a little time and no nagging he took right to it (just don't move to your parents, if they don't like him). All I can really say is if he really loves you like he says then he will take it at stride, and then turn around and be like well, that's that, I guess it was meant to be. All 3 of my children were conceived while on B.C.
Just talk it out and give it to him how he would understand it..
Everything will be alright
Best Wishes

Answer 3

I think you should be honest with him. It will have to come out sooner or later - it isn't something you can hide. I think he would be more angry if you kept it from him. Maybe he won't be as upset as you think.

Let him know you have something important you'd like to discuss with him in private. Discuss it when your other children are not around or are in bed. Drop the bomb - let him know you wanted to be honest with him and not keep it from him though you were scared of his reaction. Stress that you hate to break the news because you knew he wasn't particularly wanting another child but that it just happened and now all you two can do is make the best of it. Tell him that after this one you will get your tubes tied (after labor) to be sure it won't happen again but that it DID happen this time so you need to be strong together. He may be better about it than you think. I hope so good luck.

Answer 4

My husband didn't want any more children either, but 4 years ago I became pregnant again. My kids were 18 and almost 16 at the time. I was scared to tell him I was pregnant. I thought he would either divorce me or make me have an abortion. The day I decided to tell him I was so scared that I cried. I went to where he works and just told him, crying my eyes out, but no beating around the bush! He wasn't excited about it at all, but after a couple weeks he decided that he couldn't do anything about it and started to get used to it. After a couple months he was starting to love the baby just as much as me. He even rubbed my belly at night! Now we have a 3 year old girl who is the light of his life! Our grown boys, now 21 and almost 19 love her more than anything in the world. She became a blessing to our family. God had a plan for us. I think it was to change my husband's mind!

Answer 5

I would be in the same boat if I ever found myself pregnant, so I can understand what you feel. If it was me and my husband, I would take him out somewhere queit and private.....a park, our backyard....somewhere serene, and break the news as gently as possible. Don't let his temper on the issue get to you....things are different for women when we get pregnant because we have all of the choices, but men only get one choice and that is whatever we choose. Give him some time, he will have to come around. You definitly aren't the first women to have to break this to a husband, and he isn't the first to be less then estatic about it! Good luck, and congrats!! I know it's tough now, but there is a sweet little baby on the way!!!

Answer 6

He is YOUR husband! He should love you regradless! He may not want more children but it happened! There is nothing you two can do now. Either have the baby or give it up for adoption. Sit down with him and talk about it... or if you don't have the guts to say it then just SHOW him the pregnancy test. No ords, and he ill understand completely. There is nothing bad about a little baby! Take it easy... good luck!

Answer 7

Just be honest. Let him know that you are aware that he doesn't want any more children but you are pregnant. Chances are he may be a little frustrated at first but he might start warming up to the idea after a while.

I know I wasn't crazy about the thought of being pregnant but after I had my first ultrasound and found out it was a boy, I was so happy. I wouldn't want it any other way.

Answer 8

i would wait till you know your pregnancy is safe. He might want you to get an abortion. Its ultamatly up to you because it is your body not his. Yes it may be his baby but like you said he might not want one. MY husnad too doesnt want and more kids and is scared if i get pregnant. he needs to grow up too and learn taht **** happens and its happens for a reason. I have thought how i would tell my husband but you will enver be able to tell him in a way he would understand. For me i am going to tell my husband " I know you dont want kids but I am pregnant, and I am keeping it, if you dont want to raise this child with me so be it but I am haveing this child with you or without you." It sounds a bit mean and accuseing so maybe find a less accuseign way of saying it, maybe he would be thrilled. Just do what you want since your pregnant and he isnt. Once that baby is born and around 1 1/2 years old he will be so inlove you probably couldnt pry that baby from his fingers. Our first was na accident and my husband actually cryed cause he didnt want it. now he cant get enough of our son.

Answer 9

Well you can be an adult and just spit it out. Or you can be a child and stew on it for a while, and let him find out when he starts noticing you are physically changing. How pissed do you think he will be then? What he wants is kind of irrelevant at this point, your are already pregnant. You told should have a indepth discussion about what you two will do with the new child. Raise yourselves, put up for adoption, etc. Then if he serious wants no more children in the future he should have a medical procedure to help insure there are no more accidents.

Answer 10

Sweetie alot of people dont want anymore kids(mostly guys you dont have to be mean about it but point it out to him that you didnt lay there and create that baby by yourself.This has happened to me(by the way i have 2 goin on 4 kids my husband only wants to claim the child that is his and it hurts me alot.).A way you can tell him the newsis by making a healthy breakfast and having the food forming the words "IM PREGNANT" and if hes mad im pretty sure he'll get over it.GOOD LUCK!!!!