my friend wants to go to the same college as me. i don't want her to. she is too clingy and pessamistic about everything. i want to get away from her and thought that going to a private college would distract her from going. (i really really REALLY want to go to this college ~St. Mary's University in Winona, MN ~ the college would be great for me, and i know i'm supposed to be there.) my friend would get nothing out of it and i know would blame me for it. the only reason that she wants to go is b/c i'm going. she still thinks that we're bestfriends, but in all reality we haven't been in four years. i've changed dramaically, but she hasn't even walked a step toward change. she brings everyone and everything down. i can understand her viewpoint, but she needs to break free and be on her own for once. she can't see that i'm not going to always be there for her. how do i tell her "no"? i dont want to hurt her feelings, but she needs to know that i don't want her there with me.
2006-09-13 09:14:13 · 5 answers · asked by the ocho 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Thanks for being a good person and thinking of her feelings too. At this point, just go ahead with your plans and be unethuiastic about hers. If she goes to St Mary;s too, just get busy with other things and be busy. She will wander off on her own eventually. Make sure that you tell housing that you do not want the same dorm. Have your parents make this clear to the school for you. I am so sorry that you drifted apart and wish there was something someone could advise to let her go gently. There is not. Just go on with your life and get too busy for her.
2006-09-13 09:27:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him your mothers and fathers determined that you would possibly want to bypass to a quite some college and tell him you style of prefer to envision it out and perhaps say you'll bypass to the school with him in case you don't like it...
2016-11-26 21:44:49 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it from someone who DID got to college in Winona. If you have your friend's personality type, you wont make it there anyway. you will make friends there and do well and hopefully she will too, but it doesn't have to be together.
2006-09-13 18:14:18 · answer #3 · answered by question33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Persue what you want to do. You don't have to tell her just yet, only indicate that you're undecided. Encourage her to develop a path of her own.
2006-09-13 09:19:17 · answer #4 · answered by Cam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her about your feeling with nicely and carefully. choose another course,
2006-09-13 09:16:55 · answer #5 · answered by lawrence 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋