we broke up sunday i love her deeply still i cant eat or sleep or get my mind off her
2006-09-13 09:12:07 · 12 answers · asked by dieseldick3408 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just tell yourself it is over and make a new life
2006-09-13 09:13:14 · answer #1 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Broke up on Sunday? Dear, just give it more time. I know its rough, I've been through those many a time, but the heart can heal. If its been months and you still cant stop, its probably time to evaluate the situation: find a new love, or try to revive the old one. Dont decide so soon though, the feelings your having right now can cause you to make dangerous decisions.
2006-09-13 16:15:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time, but time in itself doesn't fix anything, its what you do with the time that counts. If you spend that time doing nothing but thinking about what was yesterday that is how you will spend your tomorrows. You have to grieve, but give yourself a limit, after that push yourself forward, no matter how much you don't want to, keep busy doing things that make you happy, at first it will serve no real purpose except distracting your brain, but eventually you will find joy in them again.
Take care of yourself physically, don't start eating junk..remember your body needs to be physically strong to fight the stress. Read some great books, listen to great music, DANCE (nobody can be sad when they dance) even if its home by yourself, work out, play games...whatever you are in to. Spend time with friends and family, volunteer in your community with people or dogs if you prefer. Do the things you gave up for your relationship. Soon you will find yourself understanding what went wrong and ready to try again. Whatever you do DO NOT start doing destructive things...drinking, things like that..people get stuck when thats how they try to handle things. I was a bartender a long time, I saw folks that came in to get over a breakup and were still there years later. Know that it WILL get better, at first you might just survive a minute at a time, but those will turn to days and weeks and you will get there. Don't lose faith in that. Good luck, be patient with yourself, and remember it will get better!
2006-09-13 16:17:53 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a class or two. Something you like or would like to do. Nothing academic. Like, if you were into wine you could take a wine class, or join a book club. These are also great places to meet new people (as friends or other), probably the best way to keep your mind off of her.
Do not let yourself sit around, that is the worst. Also, try to surround yourself with friends.
It will get better!
2006-09-13 16:16:47 · answer #4 · answered by Shannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ex as in wife or g/f? There won't be anything from these opinions that will cause you to get her back. You know why this breakup occurred, and already know what needs to be done to mend it. The thing you need to focus on is if it's worth it by going through whatever the cause was again, because they rarely drop out of the picture, or if once you get back together things won't get to this state again for this same reason.
2006-09-13 16:20:58 · answer #5 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my ex went out the same amount of time and he broke up with me for an ex girlfriend, and I was devastated. It took me 6 months, and it will take a long time, but dont sit at home and mope, go out with friends. you are not ready for a new girl but you can have fun with friends and eventually, even though you dont want to, you will meet a new girl. I promise you will get through this, if I did, I know you can
2006-09-13 16:15:43 · answer #6 · answered by I Love my boys 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you just broke up sunday and already want to know how to get over her? if you still can't eat and leep in a few weeks or months then you may want to consider help via therapist or medication. right now you just need to realize that breaking up is a lot losing someone to death. take your time to greive and eventually the pain will start to diminish and you'll get over her. it's to soon to think that you need to start getting over her. if it only took three days to get over a break up you would either be a man with no heart, or you never would have loved her to begin with.
2006-09-13 16:23:21 · answer #7 · answered by rebecca c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
....don't worry about her. Give it time. She'll pass. Or maybe she still has feelings for you... you don't know that. Live a lonely life for a month or two then move on and start dating again!
See I have a cousin that was breaking up with her guy and coming back together for a while now. sometimes it was her sometimes it was him. but still, she is with him right now for over 2 years. don't give up just yet. live and don't starve. If you don't do nothing nothing will happen--keep that in mind.
2006-09-13 16:16:08 · answer #8 · answered by brother from QG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes time.. try to keep yourself distracted. go work out, or paint, anything! i've found that working out helps a lot.. it also makes you feel better about yourself. you should try it
dont lay around and do nothing because it will only make you depressed.. being there alone with those thoughts.
2006-09-13 16:15:54 · answer #9 · answered by NAQ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
an ex is an ex for a reason, it'll take time to get over her, 3yrs is a long time.....but it will happen
2006-09-13 16:15:45 · answer #10 · answered by Happyworms 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋