My boyfriend took me out w/ my friends for my birthday. When we get to the club , the hostess walks us over to our table, which was for two people and we needed it for five. My boyfriend talks to the hostess and she isn't cooperating. So I step in and begin to talk to her to see if we could get everything straightened out. I begin to feel someone pinching my thigh. Its my boyfriend, I turn and look at him and he says to me "nikki just shut up or ur going to get us kicked out" in front of the waitress. He turns to the waitress and asks for his credit card back b/c we are leaving. We get outside and we begin to argue all the way back to his place. I get my overnight bag and before I walked out I told him to get his H.S. diploma, and I left. (He never graduated from H.S.) We haven't spoken since, its been 1month. I don't know if I will ever hear from him again. What do you think?
2006-09-13 09:10:52 · 12 answers · asked by nikki12 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Better to be done with him. He is a complete jerk. Go on with somebody that's appreciative...it's definitely not him.
2006-09-13 09:14:01 · answer #1 · answered by Gez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is petty stuff. If you two can't get through something on this level, you do not need to be together. In life there are so many things that are WAY tougher. You just need to carry on with your life. Both of you were in the wrong in this situation, as I see it. You went in for the kill with your comment and I am sure that it hurt bad. An apoligy can go very far. Follow your heart.
2006-09-13 09:26:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although maybe booze played some part i would have to say you overacted, which everyone does once in a while. I'd be more worried by him not talking to you for a month, maybe he was looking for a way out of the relationship, because as untrivial as this is, it seems a long time without speaking.
2006-09-13 09:15:08 · answer #3 · answered by michaelbcfc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are you may not. You struck a very deep nerve of shame within him, by putting him down that way. And if he was worried about you all getting kicked out that night, apparently you were acting improperly. This was thus the first insult to his level of education, because you were acting as if you were smarter than he was by trying to do something better than what he was trying to do. Then you reinforced how much superior you are to him, by telling him to get his diploma.
2006-09-13 09:21:18 · answer #4 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. If neither of you have stepped up to the plate to apologize in four weeks forget about it! It's over & you obviously weren't well matched.
Believe me, by 6 weeks my ex not only had hooked up w/ someone else - they moved in together & in another 6 weeks they got married!
2006-09-13 09:37:18 · answer #5 · answered by communion6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you over reacted at all. He sounds like a condescending jerk devoid of any emotions.
You did the right thing.
I think you will be a better person if you never see that shallow-minded diploma-less kid again.
2006-09-13 09:15:24 · answer #6 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY would you EVER want to hear from him again????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????
What part of his behavior is attractive to you??
If he acts like this in public under stress, imagine how he would be if you were in a relationship and he was under stress???????
And also.......why the H would you take his diploma (fake or real)?
Do you like guys who lie about details in life like graduating or who crashes and burns when things don't go his way when out to eat?? This is just a sample of what he is like, especially on a long term level. If he pinches your thigh in public......what would he do in private????????? And why would you want to have a relationship with him? Maybe you have had poor examples of relationships and think it is ok to throw fits in public and it is ok for one person to harm another just to get them to stop talking.
Sounds like the two of you need to grow up. Also sounds like you need a clear view of what sort of man you want in your life. Two people who can't deal with a simple mix up when out to eat would spell out two people who won't have the tools to deal with life when things really get tough.
2006-09-13 09:25:43 · answer #7 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he lied about each and every thing, you under no circumstances fairly knew him, and this is not fairly him it really is part of you. As weird and wonderful because it will be, i might want to bypass on, and faraway from that unlucky difficulty.
2016-11-26 21:44:36 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasnt come to you yet, then he may not. It sounded like a dumb argument, like so many of us have. Hes a guy tho, he may not know how to go about it, Maybe hes scared you may reject him.
Only way to know is to call him.
2006-09-13 09:15:28 · answer #9 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the HS thing was uncalled for, but all the same he put his ego in to it all. To me - not worth it. The same things may keep coming up.
2006-09-13 09:19:19 · answer #10 · answered by caughtin2minds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋