I am not a prejudice person and I am not raceist either, but I have a slight problem regarding who I date for the simple fact that I am jewish. I have a friend from college that I like very much, and I would like to ask him out but there is a fear of going too far. I can be accepting when it comes to others but my problem is that my family would never be accepting or ever come to accept anything of such nature. I love my family and I would never want to hurt them in anyway or lose them. So I am pretty much unsure of what to do. Should I take the chance which doesnt mean it it will lead anywhere?
2006-09-13 09:08:20 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Why even consider it? Go on to somebody else. There's lots out there and somebody your family will accept. We have to please our families...you know.
2006-09-13 09:11:52 · answer #1 · answered by Gez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good on you for considering the possibility that if you were to get involved with this guy, it would ultimately end up a doomed relationship. The idea of burning all your other bridges and alienating your family for the sake of being with your One True Love is romantic and all, but usually doesn't work out in reality.
You might be able to offer this as a selling point to him: "My family would hate you, but I don't. Want to date for a while and have some fun until we both find somebody more marriage-worthy?"
2006-09-13 16:18:04 · answer #2 · answered by Katie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now you need to look out for # 1. Your family loves you and if any of them are remotely happy with the relationship choices they've made, they'll understand, not like the guy won't convert. It's worth a shot, not everyday you have the chance to find true love.
2006-09-13 16:26:22 · answer #3 · answered by atotalditz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, my mom is against me dating anyone non american, but you can't help who you fall in love with. I am engaged to a Brazilian. and I'm pregnant, I just found that out and at first I was afraid of hurting my mom, but if they love you they will support you, they may be upset at first but over time things will work out
good luck
2006-09-13 16:12:21 · answer #4 · answered by I Love my boys 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a hard decision to make. If you go out with him you are encouraging him to think that the relationship could be more than just friends unless you make it perfectly clear in the beginning what your feelings are.
2006-09-13 16:14:04 · answer #5 · answered by Red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parent's happiness in life is more important to you, than your happiness, then I would recommend staying away from anyone your parents would not be happy with; for it does no good to risk falling deeply in love with someone it will tear both of your hearts apart to eventually have to break up with.
2006-09-13 16:13:16 · answer #6 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Tim. Is it your life or theirs?
2006-09-13 16:11:42 · answer #7 · answered by angel2005_2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am jewish too... eventually you will settle w/ another jew :)
2006-09-13 16:17:27 · answer #8 · answered by V L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who's life is it? yours, or your family's?
2006-09-13 16:10:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
aren't we all have the same problem
2006-09-13 16:10:48 · answer #10 · answered by george p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋