His Pros: He works approx.16 hours per day/7 days a wk, pays all bills 4 last 9 months since wife has health issues. His cons: He has custody of 5 kids (2 R over 18). He refuses to help w/behavior of his children; he never spends time with his wife 1 on 1 even before children came to live w/them, when she was working. He thinks marriage should be on auto-pilot. Her Pros: She's the only adult member of house who's not illiterate. She does all of the paperwork for the home, helps w/homework for all kids (none of which are her's biologically), goes to PTA , attends parent teacher conferences, chauffeurs kids wherever they need to go (when/if he allows her to use his vehicle since they only have one). She does all of husband’s paperwork, taxes, negotiations w/employers, etc. Her cons: 2 yrs ago (yr 3 of marriage) she started to drink and, now needs 10 beers a day not even to get a buzz, just to keep away DTs and horrific scarry hallucinations. Who's the most screwed in this situation?
2006-09-13 09:07:20 · 4 answers · asked by Book Diva 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Jenny (and everyone) thanks for your input however, since you think the "children are being the most shorted in this.” when was the last time you went to a PTA meeting or spent 4 hours each night—5 nights in a ROW on homework, spent you last $10 on toys or baked a cake with a 10-year old when you were hung-over and nauseous? It's so easy to judge the actions of others isn't it? I'll put it like the late comedian Bill Hicks did “Why is it when there is some tragidy I have to hear 'OMG the children, the poor children...how many cihildren were in Waco, Texas? How many children were in the plane crash? WTF happened to caring about all people? What is it? When individuals reach 18 they no longer qualify for your F***king love list?!”
2006-09-13 09:29:56 · update #1
everyone is getting short end of the stick.
*however*, the mother has to be careful because her problems are becoming HEALTH risks (alcoholism, hallucinations??? NOT GOOD!). if she doesn't take care of herself, she will not be able to continue taking care of these children OR herself. the children are most important, therefore the parents have to keep themselves healthy and seek HELP in order to regain Positivity, Healthiness, Communication, Trust, Love in their lives. even separated might be better than staying together and drowning.
2006-09-13 09:17:24 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The children are the ones being shorted in that relationship.
2006-09-13 16:11:09 · answer #2 · answered by jennypoo803 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone in the relationship is being shortchanged..... It needs to end now.
2006-09-13 16:14:33 · answer #3 · answered by S G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need help. Maybe you are not good for each other. Seek counseling.
2006-09-13 16:10:34 · answer #4 · answered by honeyluv_2010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋