My husband couldnt get our new car seat installed in the parking lot of Target, so he was upset and returned it. On the way home he kept yelling at me over and over (our baby was in the back seat) I didnt want him to return it (last one) I just wanted him to stop yelling, especially in front of the baby. I told him I would get out if he didnt stop screaming. So he tells me to get the "F" out. Backround: Im pregnant with our second, it was 9:30 PM and dark, in a town I didnt live in. He left. He just never came back! He took our son and just left me there. I left 2 voicemails telling him I was cold and didnt want friends to know he left me. I cant wrap my head around this. We have been in counseling recently, he has major problems with feeling inadequate And I have problems giving directions.
We havent talked for two days (Im staying at my parents) Im 34; no young kid. What should I do? I mean would a man no matter how angry just do this if he REALLY loved his wife? HELP
2006-09-13 09:06:05 · 21 answers · asked by Loosid 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I called my friend and got the baby and my car.
2006-09-13 09:23:19 · update #1
The same night
2006-09-13 09:23:55 · update #2
Dont listen to them. They are just girls and I am a guy. Your man does sound a lot like me we both have issues of anger management. I am generally a very nice guy but when I am angry I am capable of a lot of things like kicking my girlfriend out of the house in the middle of the night cause she wouldnt let me sleep. He just didnt know what he was thinking I get like that too its when I just want to be left alone and then in 2 hours u feel guilty as hell. Anyway the point is he is suffering like hell right now and he is miserable without you. I guarantee you if you wait a couple more days you will get a phone call with a tearful apology. Trust me. But dont call him he will call you. If he loves u he will call u.
2006-09-13 09:15:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, no matter how angry, people have tempers and blow up and loose control. It doesn't mean that he doesn't love you. Haven't you ever felt crazy with the kids or your parents, etc and wanted to blow UP? Well some people can't control it as well and lose control. Sounds like he needs some therapy on his own through rather than just marital counseling. Plus, you being pregant and already having a little one definately adds to the stress.
Get your toddler and chill out somewhere else while you two figure out what you are going to do. Demand that he change his ways and seek some help before you agree to return. Consider seeing a psychologist yourself.
It's tough hon, hang in there.
2006-09-13 16:15:03 · answer #2 · answered by nic_tammyscott 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry but this would be unacceptable behavior in my opinion. # 1 you are pregnant, #2 he left you and never came back #3 you could have been raped, kidnapped, killed! My god, what is wrong with this man! If it was me I would be filing for divorce! But's me! I would take that as total neglect, disrespect, insentivity, abuse, I could go on and on but I think you get the point! If you love someone you don't do that to them! Sounds like he needs more counseling! Do what's best for your children, the one you have and are carrying! Being with someone that would leave you stranded isn't good for you or the kids!
2006-09-13 16:14:55 · answer #3 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at 34 you should know that no one should be treated like that and do you really want to see your children grow up with seeing their mommy yelled and screamed at and treated like they were nothing? the y will grow up if especially if they are girls thinking it is ok to be treated like that break the pattern now they are babies if you ask me i think he could have a violent streak if he reacts like that over a car seat. i had a so called man like that i also had four small children finally left him and believe it or not found a wonderful man that loved my kids as if they were his and in 14 years he has never yelled at me called me names or anything like that there will be someone out there that is good trust me
2006-09-13 16:32:49 · answer #4 · answered by PAULINA S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want to talk and go for a long drive...like to the mountains or somewhere in the middle of nowhere ( you know where I'm going right) after your long talk about what he did was F*ed up tell him you need to get a tissue out of the glove compartment...... and ditch his sorry a$$. Then when you get to a phone leave a voice mail telling him how sorry you are about his luck and how bad it sucks to be him. Then when he gets home have him served with child support and divorce papers!!! :)
2006-09-13 16:19:57 · answer #5 · answered by skhoury28nails 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see any love for you on his part. People fight and stuff but you don't leave the person you love on the side of the road alone, especially not if they are pregnant. You need to get a good lawyer and divorce this guy and file for child support. You don't want your kids being with someone who when they get upset with them just dumps them on the side of the road alone.
2006-09-13 16:14:06 · answer #6 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This one is simple. Go get your son and move on with your life. If he is cold hearted enough to do this to you AND YOUR UNBORN CHILD he has no business in any kind of a relationship with anyone. Let alone your children.
Stay and you are in for major hurt, harm, and definately pain, in every way.
Next time, remember not to make idle threats.
Stop calling him, but go get your other child. This man has no business raising one.
J
2006-09-13 16:15:01 · answer #7 · answered by frankly2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that is tough. I can't believe a man who loved his wife would LEAVE her anywhere. Especially with all of the factors involved. My advice would be give it time, maybe a separation would make him realize what he is doing. You know him, is something more going on? Financial stress, work? Not that this would make it ok, but maybe something is wearing on him to the point he is taking it out on you, the one he is closest to. Make sure he proves he has taken steps to correct his behaviour before you go back (counceling, anger management. ect).
2006-09-13 16:18:10 · answer #8 · answered by Carey L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Givr him 2 choices 1) go to a shrink 2) get out for good
2006-09-13 17:21:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No real man with feelings for their wife and unborn baby would ever leave a her stranded. Leave before the baby comes and make sure someone is with you when your packing.
2006-09-13 16:14:15 · answer #10 · answered by motrouble 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋