i quit my job to stay with my elderly dad,and for some reason he wants lights off even when it is hard to see.i like to read and he just gets out of his chair ,walks over and turnes it off.doesn't bother to ask.what do you think?
2006-09-13 08:54:48 · 8 answers · asked by smdglvr 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I wouldn't say it is selfish but it is rude.He does not seem to be showing any concern for you.Perhaps you could tell
him that you will make sure the lights are off when you are finished with what you are doing.Explain to him that you left your job to look after him and you still have your own life and how you dont think it is fair what he is doing.
It sounds easy enough to work out but sometimes people
tend to just think of themselves. That is what is selfish.I am sure you love him very much and probably want to avoid having any type of confrontation with him.Tell him nicely and whatever you do try and avoid an argument as that would only make matters worse.
If he insists and he is unwilling to compromise maybe you can buy one of those lamps that operate on battery power.That way at least you are not left in the dark.I'm so sorry I hope he listens to your concerns.Good Luck!
2006-09-13 09:20:49 · answer #1 · answered by John 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it seems selfish. Maybe he has some sort of sensitivity to light though. You could ask him not to do that anymore, or get a little book light at a bookstore, one that clips onto the book so that it will not bother him. Or just tell him to look after himself from now on.
2006-09-13 16:00:01 · answer #2 · answered by Cactus Dan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on if its his house or yours. If its his house, and hes elderly......give him his way and get a book light.
If its your house, then Id tell him, if you act like this, then I cant be the one to take care of you.
2006-09-13 16:00:45 · answer #3 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go read in your private room---he is from a different era and possibly concerned about the money being wasted
2006-09-13 15:57:51 · answer #4 · answered by sunbun 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont know seems like old people can be very mean for no reason.
2006-09-13 15:59:28 · answer #5 · answered by dreamgirl4myboy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats not selfish! hes old, give him a break, read another time
2006-09-13 15:58:58 · answer #6 · answered by I Love my boys 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they have a flashlight that you can put on your head... easy to modify too!!!! use one of those, and when he comes near you...superfly his butt back down in his lonley corner.
2006-09-13 16:05:25 · answer #7 · answered by ღсяаՀу∙թіхіе∙ժմѕτღ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
older ppl get funny when get older just tell him it's wrong
2006-09-13 15:58:26 · answer #8 · answered by george p 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋