i have the best boy in the world. I love him so much. But i like girls to. what do i do. Should I tell him?
2006-09-13 08:45:45 · 19 answers · asked by ilovewolves_animals 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I could write a lot of things about coming out as a bisexual, from my own personal experiance and my academic work on the topic, but intead, I'm just going to point you to:
http://www.joekort.com/articles60.htm
Because in all the things I've done or read, I've never seen anyone sum up coming out issues so succinctly or intelligently.
Otherwise I can offer you a book list, and say that I really benefitted from reading about other gay people
Outing Yourself: How to Come Out as Lesbian or Gay to Your Family, Friends, and Coworkers by Michelangelo Signorile
I would also HIGHLY reccomend Queer in America : Sex, the Media, and the Closets of Power
Coming Out of Shame : Transforming Gay and Lesbian Lives by Gershen Kaufman
Now That I'm Out What Do I Do? by Brian McNaught
Coming Out to Parents: A Two-Way Survival Guide for Lesbians and Gay Men and Their Parents by Mary V. Borhek
Beyond Acceptance: Parents of Lesbians & Gays Talk About Their Experiences by Carolyn W. Griffin
DON'T SHOOT! I'm Coming Out ~ How to "Man-Up" and Set Heterosexuals "Straight" by Benn Setfrey
Becoming Gay: The Journey To Self-Acceptance by Richard A. Isay
Queer Blues: The Lesbian and Gay Guide to Overcoming Depression by Kimeron N. Hardin, Marny Hall, Betty Berzon
Coming Out Under Fire by Allan Berube
Family Outing: A Guide to the Coming-Out Process for Gays, Lesbians, & Their Families
Family Outing: A Guide to the Coming-Out Process for Gays, Lesbians, & Their Families by Chastity Bono and Billie Fitzpatrick
Coming Out Within: Stages of Spiritual Awakening for Lesbians and Gay Men by Craig O'Neill and Kathleen Ritter
Coming Out Every Day : A Gay, Bisexual, and Questioning Man's Guide by Ph.D. Bret K. Johnson
2006-09-13 09:28:21 · answer #1 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell him, baby. Things like that could have a long lasting effect because later in life, you could be interested in a woman and that adds to the displeasure of the news.
You have to be honest if you want to keep a good relationship. Also, don't cheat.
2006-09-13 15:49:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to be indecisive about what you might decide to do down the road but you need to let the people who are getting close to you know that you have a variety of feelings about these issues.
Many people are sexually interested in both sexes. It's ok to experiment until you decide what you really want.
2006-09-13 16:37:13 · answer #3 · answered by The Eight Ball 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people will tell you to tell and you should but if you decide not to tell it's hell to live like that and always hidding.
I wish you all the best with what ever you choose.........
:)
2006-09-13 19:25:29 · answer #4 · answered by Super 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By all means tell him. If it's eating you up inside that you're not being totally honest with him how's that going to make him feel? Just be sure to be faithful to him, while you're together.
2006-09-13 16:09:52 · answer #5 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jump off the fence and be who you are!
If this isn't what you are willing to do - then for God's sake AND ours - USE PROTECTION.
One can never know just 'how many partners they are sleeping with' when sharing an intimate moment with someone they JUST met. Don't be silly - cover your willy!
Good luck
2006-09-13 15:53:19 · answer #6 · answered by bga 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes, trust is the most important thing in a relationship. if you love him you have to tell him, regaurdless of the consequences. i hope you can work it out, good luck!!!
2006-09-14 04:07:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you want to tell him, go ahead. The thing is, why worry someone needlessly? If you aren't looking for someone else, why mention it?
2006-09-13 16:00:54 · answer #8 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u should be honest with all people involved because playing with peoples emotions is a no no....u need to be upfront about who u are and ur intentions with everyone.
2006-09-13 16:54:57 · answer #9 · answered by I dont trust no Bush but my own. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes tell him if he loves you he will take every part of you
2006-09-14 09:13:19 · answer #10 · answered by Dee H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋