Suddenly, husband of 15 years "doesn't know what he wants". I sometimes get the feeling there is someONE else (tho he denies it). Should I wait until he "knows" what he wants or try and leave with some dignity and not just stick around waiting for him to love me back?
2006-09-13 08:43:33 · 11 answers · asked by Canada 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hold on for a minute... is he referring to you or your marriage as far as not knowing? Or is he talking about his goals in life or dessert?
What I'm getting at is talk with him; perhaps you can help him figure it out. If he refuses your help, that may be an indication.
I've heard some women respond to such statements by declaring that -you know what you want as far as your marriage and your man, but you're not going to be held in suspense while he tries to figure out if he wants to include you or not in his life-
Good luck-
2006-09-13 08:54:21 · answer #1 · answered by E. Gads 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To suddenly change his mind and not no wot he wants is a little 2 late, he shud have known 15 years ago and if he didnt, he shud have by now! If he is seeing sum1 else he cud possibly be stringing u along just incase it doesnt go 2 plan with his new 1. I wud definatly prepare urself 4 a separation and quite possibly a divorce. Have sum dignity and make the decision 4 him and tell him that the relationship is over! u r not a doormat! u r his wife!
2006-09-13 15:46:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Commitment. People have lost the value of commitment. When i give my signature, my hand shake, my word. It means something. It's a "this is me" sign. I'm the real deal. I make a promise, I keep it! End of story. You brake a promise, you loose integrity. It works with friends, collegues, work, to your superiors and your subordinates.
It's what makes a man. It's being profesional. You commit to love and to provide the other person, till death do you apart; then you just signed the deal. Like in business, why invest a large sum of money on a business you know its not gonna last?. Why get married if you dont truly love the person as to take a bullet for her? Why make a promise you cant keep? - It's not a religious thing, it's not a lovey lovey thing. It's an integrity thing.
2006-09-13 15:48:31 · answer #3 · answered by lordfatrat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe all marraige are fixible you just have to know what to do. Maybe there is someone else maybe theres not, and he might come out and admit it and may not who knows, but if you want your marraige then its time you put it in high gear, Start by preparing a romantic night, get off work early or wahtever you have to do, to make a nice dinner for him go buy a new nighty at Victory Secrets and blow him out of the water. Comunication is also a key factor in marriage, if he doesnt know what he wants, then show him what he wants. Show him why yall got married in the first place.
2006-09-13 15:48:09 · answer #4 · answered by justwaitingtoleave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a sign of something going on. Are you prepared to leave?? Dont ever wait for a man. You are a strong women and you can handle anything that comes your way. Good Luck!!
2006-09-13 15:50:53 · answer #5 · answered by dbender705 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely, he's reaching that "midlife crisis" stage, and really DOESN"T know what he wants.....You've hung in there for 15 years, ride the storm out. Just love him, reassure him, and see where it goes. You might have the best marriage you've ever had, for the next 15, once he figures things out. Good Luck!
2006-09-13 15:49:28 · answer #6 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down cause sometimes we women can take things the wrong way. Talk with him suggest counseling. Don't just run cause you took some serious vows on your wedding day. Never give up just like that. Unless there is something you got on your mind???
2006-09-13 15:47:33 · answer #7 · answered by "karma" 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try some counseling both together and separately - I suspect there is someone else though..... Get to the truth and it will guide your path.
2006-09-13 15:49:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave with dignity
2006-09-13 15:46:20 · answer #9 · answered by Ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart
2006-09-13 15:49:38 · answer #10 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋