You have what you feel is a pretty good 'work friend' that you work with for several years. Although you don't do anything outside of the office or just do a few things you figure they will keep in touch when they move on to another job and THEY DON'T. I'm not sure whether my feelings should be hurt about this or not but it's happened quite a few times.
2006-09-13 08:43:18 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I can imagine that your feelings are hurt. That's pretty much a hard pill to swallow. You've been working with a person for years! Eaten lunch with them; spoke with on the telephone so many times! Then they move on and you no longer hear from this person. To tell you the truth honey----it wasn't like that back in the day. People use to always stay in touch with each other come hook or crook. But things have changed over the decades. All I can write to you is to take it with a grain of salt. There is so much STUFF going on in today's society until people are just trying to get theirs. You'll have other associates. And trust me----you'll be able to recognize associates from good friends. Trust me there is a difference!
Take care!
2006-09-13 08:49:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings should only be hurt if the person claimed to be a friend and proved to be otherwise. You can go to lunch, or even happy hour with coworkers, you're still nothing more than associates if the only time you see or talk to them is on the way to, while at, or immediately after work.
I think people misunderstand an association for a friendship. As a loner, I have never had that problem. Based on the information you've given, I would say that, although your feelings were hurt, your coworkers have done nothing wrong. People wear masks at work. They project the image they want you to see. So their 'at work' personality may be drastically different than their 'at home' personality. Your 'at home' personality could probably clash with theirs. With work no longer being your commonality, what else is left? Sometimes, often times, nothing. Why fake an association if you don't have to? It's much better to break ties and part with your good memories.
You know, there's nothing wrong with you getting their home number before they become an ex-coworker. If you really see this person/these people as friends, treat them like friends. Invite them over to your house for dinner and drinks or make some other personal association. Do it BEFORE you guys part ways.
2006-09-13 08:54:27 · answer #2 · answered by Honey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it happens. Personally, I don't let that hurt my feelings though I did the first few times it happened. Now, I think it's more that we were only work buddies and not really *friends*, & that's okay too. If in fact you were friends, then consider that when people move & start over, they get caught up in the changes....and some of them prefer to leave the past behind completely. It's nothing personal as a general rule, it's just life.
2006-09-13 08:47:01 · answer #3 · answered by Shadow 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't take it personally. We all have "work friends" and once the job ends - the friendship ends. It happens with some people - not all. So, don't feel hurt.
2006-09-13 08:46:53 · answer #4 · answered by Topez 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal. It has happened to me many times. If they wanted an outside relationship with you, you would have both done things together then.
2006-09-13 08:45:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not unusual. The one thing in common is the workplace. Had it happen to me many times. Each of us has his/her own world of family and friends.
2006-09-13 08:46:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry to hear that.
i am lucky enough to have made a few good friends at work (i have since left the company).
perhaps they just want to move on. its not targetted at you.
2006-09-13 08:46:03 · answer #7 · answered by ash 7 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that happened to me as well, but i was the one that moved to a new job, and the guys from my old job never answered my emails.... *******.
2006-09-13 08:45:51 · answer #8 · answered by juanmrq 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nope people have their own lives and are not responsible for you or your feelings. I've had "good" friends and after we parted company I didn't hear from them again - nor did they hear from me.
2006-09-13 08:45:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, that just happens in life.
2006-09-13 08:45:38 · answer #10 · answered by Marygoroun(d) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋