It never was in to receiving oral sex because I just don't get off on it. Then It kind of became a game to see who can make me come. I always just figured it was the girls fault. I mean it would feel great but I never ejaculate. I have tried it with so many girls now it would be hard to count, and still cant. Has any girls had this problem with a guy before? How long dose it usually take a guy to blow his load when receiving oral sex? And is there any thing I can to do to help the situation. The same goes for Blow slash hand jobs too. The only way I can "finish" is through Intercourse.
PS. I know this isn't a women health issue but I wanted a women's take on it sorry.
2006-09-13 08:42:24 · 9 answers · asked by rebel_slash_hippy 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
It could be the way that they are giving it. When I give oral, I really suck it. You don't just put it in your mouth. Also, blow jobs are slower than hand jobs. It takes time. Another factor is your mind. What you are thinking about could be affecting it.
2006-09-13 08:46:31 · answer #1 · answered by Caribbean Blue 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband was the same way(before he got with me.) None of his previous gf could make him ejaculate during oral sex. I was the only one to "get him off" with just Oral sex(we joke thats why he married me!!) But I think a lot of it is mental. Maybe you dont really like the girl doing it all that much..and that affects you more than you think. If your not "into" receiving oral...then dont do it. If you would rather just have intercourse...then just do that. You shouldnt feel like you have to conform to any one else's Ideals. What works for you...is only going to work for you. And as long as you get off and are happy...then thats all that really matters!
2006-09-13 09:06:39 · answer #2 · answered by SKITTLES 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have some subconscience negative thoughts about it. Some people (regardless of how open-minded they think themselves) secretly feel there is something dirty about having a mouth on a place that waste comes out of, or that smells if it isn't cleaned everyday. That goes for both men and women.
Do the women you're with a favor and tell them straight out that this is a problem you have, that is has nothing to do with them, and they can save getting lock jaw from trying. Also, since you're saying you've had so many partners... wear condoms!
2006-09-13 08:50:47 · answer #3 · answered by IAINTELLEN 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not every guy can get off with just this. In my experience it depends on how horny I am, but then , even if I get off rather quickly with just the head, I want more than that a few minutes later probably. Head's like hor d'ouevres; an appetizer. If you get off from it, great, enjoy it. That only means you'll last longer when you start on the "main course". That's my take on it at least.
2006-09-13 08:57:20 · answer #4 · answered by D S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WELL IT'S OBVIOUS WHAT ISN'T GIVING IS U. JK. SEEMS YOU'RE SUFFERING FROM SOME MENTAL BLOCK. I GUESS PROBABLY IT'S THE LACK OF "BODY INTIMACY", AS WITH REGULAR SEX. GUESS YOU'D HAVE TO APPROACH IT FROM A MORE RELAXED POINT WITH SOMEONE U FIND SENSUOUS AND EXPLAIN TO THEM SO YOU CAN EXPERIMENT AND FIGURE OUT WHAT GETS U. (SOME LIKE TEASING SOME LIKE INTENSE SUCKING.)HOPE THAT'LL HELP.
2006-09-13 09:04:27 · answer #5 · answered by blahblah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my BF is the same way. he cant get off unless its intercourse. its not always the girls fault, it is pretty personal to have someones face in your crotch. try relaxing a lot more, that should help
2006-09-13 08:45:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just relax and go with the sensations of it. Going down on someone is really quite intimate. Used to take my partner a while, but we have both matured and learned how to please each other.
2006-09-13 08:49:38 · answer #7 · answered by Marie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are concentrating too much...Just relax...and besides who cares where you *** as long as you ***...:)
2006-09-13 08:56:45 · answer #8 · answered by slickkittykattwhopurs 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your masturbating to much so stop it
2006-09-13 08:45:20 · answer #9 · answered by lordfatrat 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋