My girlfriend is pregnant and moody, possibly bi-polar. She is stubborn and impossible to talk to when she gets this way. She move me in with her 2 mos. ago and now kicked me out. We ea. have two kids (mine are at their mother's house) so that complicates matters. She says that living me is like walking on eggshells and I told her it is the same with living with her.
I love her and I do not want her to have this baby without me. She says we cannot live together and will not even talk to me, answer my emails, etc. I even dropped some roses off at her house with a long letter telling her how much I love her and want to try and work things out.
She has done similar 2x before we were living with each other. It takes about a week or so for her to come around. I love her more than I can bear. What should I do?
2006-09-13 08:40:20 · 22 answers · asked by Mister E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
In response to "lily"'s AWESOME response...
This is the "study buddy". I don't indiscriminantly jump from bed to bed.
2006-09-13 09:29:39 · update #1
Stop bothering her and let her cool down. I'm sure when it gets closer to her due date she will come around. I bet you will get a better response if you don't pay attention to her. I hope it will be the response your looking for. Good Luck and congrats.
2006-09-13 08:44:25 · answer #1 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say to continue bothering her. If you bother a girl you REALLY like, it usually means that you're hitting on her. YOu are hitting on your girlfriend. I understand that she's "moody," but in one way, continual bothering her isn't a bad idea. Call her, write her like a 500-page letter telling her how much you love her. Tell her how much you mean to her, tell her how much you don't want this baby fatherless. Try telling her that the baby is not a big deal (even though she'll be angry), or try telling her that this baby is a sign that you love her to death. You will die for that baby and her. If she doesn't get the point, well.... move on. Don't move on unless she is a total ***** to you EVERY single time. It'll take maybe 1-2 years, at the most. I think.... go with the flow....
2006-09-13 15:52:06 · answer #2 · answered by slsampl13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I'm young but I know what I'm talking about, there is tons of relationship drama in my family 24/7. If I were you I wouldn't give up, I know that it seems like the flowers and things aren't working but I promise you, even if she's flaming pissed at you when she reads that you love her it makes her heart smile. Maybe try doing something to make her feel more comfortable, maybe her feet are hurting her, why not send her to the spa for a day? Or maybe since she already has 2 babies she feels overwhelmed, offer to babysit and send her away with her friends, maybe tell them to check into a nice hotel and just forget about the stresses of life. Anything could help, just put yourself in HER shoes, what would make YOU feel better? How can you show her that you'll always be there?
2006-09-13 15:52:18 · answer #3 · answered by jeffsgirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would leave her and just a lawyer and get custody of the new baby, wont be hard especially if you can prove she has horrible mood swings and possibly bi-polar. But if you really really love and want to be with her, deal with. Wait the week or so, then go back and wait until she throws another tantrum. But i'd leave, you can find another woman, far better would wont treat you like that. Good luck
2006-09-13 15:46:06 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably going through hormone changes you know, with the baby and all, and they're just taking over right know. But if she's been doing this before she was pregnant, then there's no telling "what" the problem is. She's probably frustrated and has alot of things on her mind that you need to see about. You need to see what's on her mind asap before she closes you out of her life for good.
2006-09-13 15:59:31 · answer #5 · answered by Dasja L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) find out how you can improve the situation..that means communicating w/ her and asking her what she needs and wants you to do
2) try to compromise. do waht u can to please her, but make sure it is positive and healthy. if she wants u to buy her drugs or let her treat u like CRAP obviously that's not gonna contribute to a "healthy" relationship.
3) go to a counselor together. explain to her that u are trying to maek ur relatiosnhip better, because u love her. and if its like walking around eggshells, figure out how to become Comfortable w/ each other. listen to each other's feelings w/o getting upset.
give her some time to cool down... let her know that u are there and WILLING to do what is right for her, by her, and for the kids. give her ur contact information and tell her that u are waiting for her to communicate. but u can't FORCE her. u have to give her time to calm down. talk to her friends, family, to help mediate. let them know ur intentions so they can explain to her. perhaps if she feels u are ready to work on the relationship to make it BETTER, not just keep it the same, she will try too. good luck.
2006-09-13 15:52:14 · answer #6 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she does not want you there during the birth of the baby , that is her option. If she lists you as the father on the birth certificate, then you are legally responsible for that child and you do have rights to visitation. If she lists the father as unknown, you can request DNA testing so that you can be involved in your childs life. Another thought, is it really yours. .... good luck, hope it is yours and it is healthy.
2006-09-13 15:46:55 · answer #7 · answered by vivib 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good thing you have that "study buddy" to fall back on. You seem the kind that has to be between someone legs all the time or you don't feel like a man. Why don't you get snipped before you populate the earth anymore with your "never going to amount to anything" kids.
2006-09-13 15:46:38 · answer #8 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
been there! on the opossite side lol.
Look what u should do is this Apologise for what ever you did even if you think you where right... remind her that you love her and tell her that you donnot want to be away from this baby too .
Tell her to think about the future of your baby not just about her....
i really hope things work out between you 3 .
Donnot quit trying to make things right Some times that is our biggest mistake Quitting.
2006-09-13 15:47:03 · answer #9 · answered by c-section mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my wife left me when she was pregnant, and never came back (thank god). Lawyer advised me that because at the time of birth I had no opportunity "to bond with the child', so consequently I had no custodial rights. Only entitled to frequent visits and a monthly child support bill. Call a lawyer, NOW.
2006-09-13 15:49:54 · answer #10 · answered by JM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋