I have checked the symptoms of Alcoholism and my boyfriend is a binge drinker and boarderline alcoholic. It affects our relationship and his sexual performance. How can I talk to him with making him angry??
2006-09-13 08:33:48 · 6 answers · asked by avion1880 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow. I really feel for you and your problem. Alcoholism is a serious issue that affected my family for years. My father was an alcoholic and it harmed every relationship in our family. I'm not an expert on this, but I think it is great that you want to voice your concern without upsetting your boyfriend. The best thing you can do is be as un-accusing and non-argumentative as possible. Make sure he knows that you love him and care for him and want to see him living the best life he possibly can. Then tell him specific reasons why you think his drinking is hurting him, so he can be aware of things he may not have noticed. Just try your best not to get in an argument or make him feel like you are accusing him of doing a million things wrong. Stay on his side. Let him know you just want what is best for him and are genuinely concerned. Good luck.
2006-09-13 08:41:33 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am both of those things and it has driven my fiance nuts. He has begged and pleaded with me to no avail. Someone who has a problem has to want it for themselves or not at all. Luckily for me I got pregnant and off course don't drink at all now. If I hadn't I would probably be drunk in about two hours from now and he would be following me around trying to pick up the peices. You can do plenty of things. Mostley just try to be honest without being pushy. No ultimatums he'll just go get drunk and feel sorry for himself. Maybe say can we go to a party and not drink just to lauph at the drunks and let him see how stupid they all look. Once I stopped and I was around it I couldn't handle watching how stupid people were falling over making out with people they don't even like fighting. Honestly it grossed me out. So I won't ever go back to that. I hope my story has helped in some way good luck
2006-09-13 15:42:33 · answer #2 · answered by SassyFras85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult to talk to anyone about such problems.. Because you take the chance on them thinking that you are just trying to stop them from doing what they want to do.. Yet if he truely does care for you.. He will at least listen to what you have to say.. Try to explain to him the differences in his performance and personality, when he is drinking and when he is not.. Yet you may want to wait for him to be sober to speak with him, for when he is drinking he won't listen to anything else.. And can be easily angered..
2006-09-13 15:47:44 · answer #3 · answered by kemosonian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of the men in my family are alcoholics, and I've found that they think they know what they are doing and they don't have a problem and they don't care what anyone else thinks because its their life. I hate drunks.
2006-09-13 15:38:14 · answer #4 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him how you feel,,no lady should have to go to bed with a sloppy drunk,,,,you're his whore then and not his lover,,,if you care about yourself,,never settle for less than what you want in a man...if he doesnt vhange ..simplky move on,,,didnt say it would be easy,,,but you need to stay healthy too and he's too old to babysit
2006-09-13 19:50:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy. Just tell them straight-up I think.
2006-09-13 15:38:26 · answer #6 · answered by Dzee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋