My friend is suddenly looking really good after her recent holiday. No lumps where therer were lumps. Boobs where there wern't any. luscious lips from no lips. I want to ask but will she mind. Mine don't look as good as hers.
2006-09-13 08:27:28 · 19 answers · asked by Hysteria 4 in Health ➔ Women's Health
No, that is very polite. Just say "Hey, you looked fatter and had no boobs before vacation."
2006-09-13 08:44:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only possible legitimate excuse for asking such a question might be if you were planning to marry this person and have children. It may then be fair to want to know if your future children may be at risk for some appearance problem that may create the wish for her (or even him in the case of the lips problem) to want plastic surgery.
Other than the above feeble excuse..... Yes. It would be extremely bad manners, and your question wouldn't deserve an honest answer or even any answer. If she wants you to know she'll tell you. If your feeble excuse is that you'd like information because you're considering such procedures get your information from someone who has been more open about having had them done.
You know, there's a chance she found a different type of bra or discovered the new collagen lipsticks that are out there now. Maybe she even lost a few pounds while away.
I had someone in my life once (a woman and someone fairly close in the family) who was convinced that I had some magic potion to make my hair shiny. She would hint and ask and talk about how people over a certain age would never have too much shine in their hair and then she'd hint and hint - and this crap went on for years!! She snooped in my cabinets and drawers to find my "magic potion" - and the thing was she had very frizzy, curly (and nice) hair, but that kind of hair isn't as shiny as straight hair is. She eventually out and out asked me (more than once), and I don't think she ever believed me. I used to think, "Honestly, If I knew of something that made my hair shine I'd be glad to share the secret with you." Anyway, she has apparently concluded that I am someone who will lie!! The moral to this story is don't try to guess why someone's something looks good. Whether her lips or "top" look better than yours don't make any difference to you.
Go out and buy yourself some better underwear and some of the collagen lipstick that's sold in drugstore chains, and never mind spinning your wheels over whatever she has the looks good.
Finally, even the closest of friends sometimes don't share their most intimate secrets. Everyone in this world has a right to keep a few things to himself. Anyone who has some secret they want kept knows that the only way to be guaranteed it will be kept is to tell NOBODY, no matter how much you think you could trust certain people. She may well trust you completely, but she may also know that trusting anyone completely still doesn't offer the same guarantee that telling nobody offers.
2006-09-13 15:46:12 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would comment on how nice she looks and ask if she has any suggestions to help you look as nice. If she doesn't mind talking about whatever treatment she had she will tell you. I wouldn't come right out and ask unless you are asking a general question like: I am thinking about getting some liposuction, do you think it really works?
2006-09-13 15:33:16 · answer #3 · answered by skipped82451 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me I think it all depends on how your girlfriend is. Maybe she just lost the lumps from exercising, and maybe she is looking more like she does is because you are looking at her more in that way. I dont know if you should ask her. Maybe you could have a friend ask her so that way you dont have to and she wont get mad or hurt from you. I dont know. Sorry. Answered the best I could.
2006-09-13 15:32:18 · answer #4 · answered by Katie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is your friend, then you should compliment her. Ask indirectly, if you must know. Say something like, "Boy, you sure are looking really good these days. Do you have any tips to help me out?" This way, you are being complimentary and depending on how close she feels you are, would determine if she tells you anything.
2006-09-13 15:32:49 · answer #5 · answered by Wise ol' owl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it would be very bad manners to ask her such a question. However, you could ask her where she was on holidays and share the info with us all 'coz I would be really interested in such a destination.
2006-09-13 15:31:42 · answer #6 · answered by Jellybean xOx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your relationship with the female. If you really want to know, have a heart to heart conversation with her and bring up something you wouldn't tell any one else. It may cause her to tell you if she had surgery or not. If you're really desperate, play truth or dare. That always works with my girlfriend
2006-09-13 15:33:34 · answer #7 · answered by Jared S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for "face lift" instead of just botox, and also whether she's enlisted the aid of new "sex toys". my intuition says she'll be more than happy to share the drama and secrets of her metamorphosis with you. oh, and if you have the chance, read kafka's short story, "the metamorphosis", for some refreshing insights on human existence, generally. ;-)
2006-09-13 15:46:33 · answer #8 · answered by drakke1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, but you can try to "weed it out of her". Just say that she looks really good. And possibly there will be some explination after that. But if not then don't stress over it.
2006-09-13 15:32:51 · answer #9 · answered by ayb_is_mine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it may be taken the wrong way if you just ask flat out. You might want to compliment her by saying, " Wow, (so-and-so), you look fabulous! " If she is comfortable talking about her recent surgery, she will offer details. If not, be glad you didn't offend her.
2006-09-13 15:31:30 · answer #10 · answered by Suz E. Home BAKER 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋