i can't be having an orgasm without being touched by hand..the penis itself doesn't do the work. my ex bf told me I can only get a "clitoris orgasm" but not the vaginal one. what's the difference and can this scum bag be right?
2006-09-13 08:22:37 · 15 answers · asked by Lana 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Yes, he could be right. Have you had this experience with others?
Some women have clitoral orgasms only, some women aren't able to have any at all.
Try getting it started by hand, and once you are enjoying it, start sex. If the "feeling" goes away, start it with your hand again. Using manual stimulation to get you almost there and then climaxing with penetration is an effective way to train your body to get there. If it's a while and you're still not there, try manual stimulation while having sex.
Don't get discouraged. You can train your body to climax in more than one way. It just takes work.
Good luck. Sounds like you'll be having fun getting there...
2006-09-13 08:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by makawao_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well don't feel bad about not achieving an orgasm by touching. It is normal for some women to be like this. Clitoris orgasm is just that. Having an orgasm via the clit. A vaginal is having one by either penis or a dildo. It can be done if the man you is making love to you knows what he is doing. It may take you longer to achieve a vaginal orgasm and if he isn't working with you, to help you , then he may not be paying attention to your needs.
good luck
2006-09-13 08:28:25 · answer #2 · answered by NIck N 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hate to be the bearer of bad news, but yes...the scum bag can be definetly right. The good news is that many women cannot reach orgasm without stimulation to the clitoris. So don't feel like their is anything wrong with you. I could tell you how to learn to have "just a vaginal" orgasm, but not on here.
2006-09-13 08:25:49 · answer #3 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel alone. The majority of women can only get off by manual stimulation. If you experience a vaginal orgasm, it is a rare thing. There is nothing wrong with you. If your bf's penis were a bit bigger (maybe enhance it with some of those rings and tubes they sell in mags) it may work for you.
2006-09-13 08:27:17 · answer #4 · answered by MiMi 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is a clitoral orgasm, and a inner G-spot orgasm, and both at once. They are two different places for stimulation. I disgree that you can only get a clitoral orgasm. My ex girlfriend told me what you just said here because of her past experiences having sex, but I proved her one day on the bathroom floor that a penis could give her a mighty orgasm. I had to work hard but her screams of joy was well worth it. I don't even have a huge penis, only around 5 inches, so you just need to get your boyfriend to do more friendly hands on research on your body.
Most girls who claim they can't get orgasms is because they haven't been toughed right, and/or weren't relaxed enough (too much thinking during sex), and/or haven't studied their own body enough to know what they like.
2006-09-13 08:26:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
There's no such thing as a vaginal orgasm it's the clitoris that's stimulated to get it. When having sex he needs to be on top of you pressing his belly on your clittoris to stimulate it, keep practising this way after awhil it should do the trick. You have been masturdating too much. Stop masturbating for a while and you shold be ok
2006-09-13 08:27:41 · answer #6 · answered by delta s 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he is right-there are vaginal and clitoral orgasms, (one is reached by external stimulation and one reached through actual act of intercourse) and it is COMMON that a woman can only expierence clitoral, who cares if you can only expierence a clitoral-an orgasm is an orgasm. Be thankful you can climax at all, some women don't...
2006-09-13 08:26:49 · answer #7 · answered by Jep 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
my hubby has a big penis and just sometimes he can get me to orgasmn too.
Its wierd.. maybe my clit is too little!! i have to rub my self againts him to be able to have an orgasm.
Try a position where your clit touches more of him when you are having sex i'm sure it will help I helps me o and try the position where you ride him that one always works..
2006-09-13 08:28:30 · answer #8 · answered by c-section mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alls your doing is "Enhancing" the fun!! He needs to get off of you about it !! My ex, never minded me, doing myself, in fact he encouraged me, to do it, it turned him on!!! But, I could get off , either way, with or without my own help!!! But, isn't it much funner, with a little more action involved? It is for me!! But then, I'm down for anything in the bedroom, with my man !!! Even, dancing for them, with very little on, dancing over thier head, naked, doing lap dances, you name it!!! Your guy needs to take a "Chill-Pill" big-time!!! And start enjoying the fun, of different love making, in many different ways!!!! Just start shocking him with other things, then he wont mind you going back to the hand thing.. Trust me on this.. Or talk to him and tell him all the girls on yahoo thinks its "Normal" and he needs to quit being so insecure!! Smile, and Good-Luck!!!
2006-09-13 08:32:56 · answer #9 · answered by Hmg♥Brd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure, I'm a man. I think what you are saying is true for MANY WOMEN. Read books on it. There are many. I have read a few of them.
Also, get him to help you explore whatever it is you might need.
If he cares he will, if he doesn't care get rid of him.
2006-09-13 08:27:14 · answer #10 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋