Whether you marry at 20, 25 or 35, you will constantly change as you age.
I have know couples who married in their 30's figuring they were "safe" from divorce at that age, only to divorce 15 years later stating they "grew apart."
My parents and grandparents are all still married. And they are still very happy, I see them compromising and communicating when they disagree. They seem to let the little things go and just ENJOY each other. That seems so rare now a days! I think that's how they have learned to grow together after so many years.
In your opinion:
As a married couple, over many years, how do you grow together instead of growing apart?
2006-09-13 08:21:22 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Respect of the other person. Listen really listen. Understanding of the person. Laughing is a good part to. Get interested in this person. Stand by this person. Don't sweat the small stuff. Enjoy each others company. Just love your partner unconditionally!
Have a wonderful day!
2006-09-13 08:27:23 · answer #1 · answered by Dimples 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We've been married three years and it's a learning experience every day. Some things I have learned are: to let the small things drop, and not to pursue an argument; to understand that he can be tired and it's okay (then it's my turn to be a little extra nice); to remember a simple hug can go a long way; I don't have to have the last word; baby him now and then; and do some of the things he enjoys doing even if they wouldn't be my choice - the smile it brings is worth a lot.
2006-09-13 08:41:22 · answer #2 · answered by Linda S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married 20 years and feel we did all of our torching in the biginning, and then we grew up and grew together. You have to have a positive attitude about marriage and it needs to come from both parties. You have to see the good in each other and carry it with you when you are away from each other. You have to understand what a marriage is and trust in one another to do the right thing. You have to be able to forgive and understand that we all make mistakes. I trust my husband with my whole heart. But I feel that comes with years of respect and devotion. Anyone that can see and use these things can make it forever. Hope this helped.
2006-09-13 09:08:46 · answer #3 · answered by Paulda37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I know that one of the biggest culprit is lack of communication throughout the marriage. The couple no longer "knows" each other.
They become more like roommates than lovers and they eventually grow apart.
So.. do not forget to take time out to communicate and communication is not only about talking, it's about listening too. U have to work on the same common goals, as far as your marriage is concerned.
2006-09-13 08:27:55 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I are growing together everyday. We try to let things go, and see each others point of view in arguments. It isn't always perfect, but we do our best. We spend a lot of time together and with our child. We try not to focus too much on the bad stuff but try to come up with the solution.
Also, I don't think we would ever hold each other back in doing something. We always try to encourage each other. We both work full time and we both are trying to finish school. The rest of the time we are together. We are kind of like big kids. We team up a lot to pull pranks at extended family get togethers. We always try to talk things out.
We got married young, but I don't think it matters about age. It's what is in the person's heart that matters. My husband has seen me at my ugliest, meanest, prettiest, saddest, happiest, fattiest, etc, and vice virsa. But no one loves me more and no one loves him more. :)
We try to put God first, and live according to His Word. If you don't have God in your marriage, it will fail.
Well, I've rambled enough. But I guess the point is to keep the relationship alive, keep communicating, and soften your heart!
2006-09-13 08:33:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because marriage is a constant two way street you have two options i mean you grow together or apart,stubborn or compromise and you have to have very good communication so that you know when the roads getting narrow and needs a little work. :)
2006-09-13 08:28:09 · answer #6 · answered by jenn03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like your parents and grandparents. Communicate and compromise.
2006-09-13 08:29:40 · answer #7 · answered by bay area curious george 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To me it seems like your grandparents are a great example of growing together. Take tips from them :)
2006-09-13 08:24:49 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet96 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talking things out not fighting now days it is the easy way out it takes a lot of work to keep it going and a lot of love but at the end its a good go
2006-09-13 15:26:27 · answer #9 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mutual Respect and communication
2006-09-13 08:24:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋