Did you have dependant children? How long were you with him/her? How hard was it?
2006-09-13 08:20:33 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was with my ex from the time that I was 16 to March of this year. We were married at 18 and as you can see we will be divorced at 23 within the next few weeks (waiting for it to be finalized). He was a compulsive liar, cheated on me left and right, and was both emotionally and physically abusive towards me (a real catch, i know...lol). He was in the military overseas and was a complete scumbag to me there so I left. A few months later he came home, swearing that he had changed and that he wanted his family back (me and our daughter). So we gave it another shot and a few months later (March), I found out he was cheating on me but continued to lie. He had a hickey after one night of "hanging out with his friends" and then I found a note in his wallet from the skank. I had been through this too many times before with him and I was actuallly beginning to believe that he was trustworthy again. I should've known better but I decided right there and then that I would not allow him to cause me anymore pain. I kicked him out as soon as I found the note, and to be honest since then I have had a rollercoaster ride of ups and downs. It was kind of hard adjusting to being on my own again and when your lonely, your heart can play tricks on you (like making you remember the good times and wanting him around because you are lonely) but thats when I would force myself to think with my head and remember exactly why we had broken up and how much the bad times actually outweighed any good. I did put up with his antics for a long time because we had a daughter and I thought that I could one day make him see how important and worthwhile his family was as oppose to his "single" life with his friends picking up women. I tryed to convince myself that it was just a phase because of his maturity level just to justify his actions but I always knew deep down that he was always a compulsive liar. It is hard because my daughter is only 2 and is having difficulties really comprehending why he is not around anymore but I know that its better then her watching me put up with his bs and trying to comprehend why mommy and daddy fight or later on why mommy never left. If that makes sense...If you asked me six months ago when I first kicked him out, I would've told you it is one of the most difficult things in the world (and it is) but now that some time has passed things are getting easier and I am so much happier now on my own then trying to bend the pieces of a relationship that will never fit. I have found independence again and am pursuing things that I enjoy that I was unable to do when married, I can do whatever I want without having to answer to anyone, I am much happier which definitely effects my relationship with my daughter for the better, and I have hope that one day I will meet someone who will treat me with love and respect (though I am content in the meantime wtihout anyone in my life). Leaving is a huge transition in one's life and to say that there will be no obstacles or any hardship is just a flat out lie. The thing that you have to consider though, is whether a temporary time of hardship is worth a lifetime of possibilities and happiness...
2006-09-13 08:49:53 · answer #1 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We had been married for 7 years (I filed the divorce on our anniversary) and had two sons. The day I threw her out for screwing around was the best day of my life. I actually felt better than I had in years. I was upset because of not being with my kids every day, but I was not sad the marriage was over.
2006-09-13 08:23:19 · answer #2 · answered by ink_collector 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-07 06:19:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WONDERFUL, 3 TEENAGERS, HAD A LOT OF SELF ESTEEM AND THE TRANSITION WAS QUITE EASY.
16 YEARS PATHOLOGICAL LIAR.
2006-09-13 08:22:31 · answer #4 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no kids,but sad but a learning experience and more careful
2006-09-13 08:43:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
heartbroken, yes, and very hard
2006-09-13 08:49:32 · answer #6 · answered by venus11224 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very easy
2006-09-13 08:24:19 · answer #7 · answered by AHMED 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋