I was going out fwith a guy now for more than 3 1/2 yrs. I love him that ill trade my life for his. Ive tried everything to keep are relationship together, but Im getting fed up with his bull ....he hardly calls and when he does it just to argue and make me upset. Not only that but he likes spending a lot of time with his friends he leaves with his friends all night to come back at 3,4-5 in the morning and i feel like im loosing him. he asked me to marry him two days ago but now he says im rushing it just cuz i found out it causes 113 dollars to get married?.......Now he is confused i wish we could get married but his funnny way of showing that he loves me is killing me...one day he calls to tell me he loves me and that im everything to him and that he can't live with out me...then he will tell me he is on sure of us..Im lost? I mean how do i gett him to to want to marry me?..How do i gett him to crave me?....How do i gett him to desire me?....I dont want to loose him i love him!!!!
2006-09-13 08:09:30 · 11 answers · asked by missme 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
How do i move on?
2006-09-13 08:35:56 · update #1
Been there,done that! I wasn't asked to marry him, but everything was the same and it just got worse. I know you love him, so did I, but if he is like that now he won't change and if ya'll get married right now later he will say "You knew I was like this before we got married". Trust me. So, figure out what is best for you. Wait awhile and see if he changes, talk to him, and if it don't work then it will never work. I loved my boyfriend too and it was hard to let him go but he never changed, so it was over. It was the best thing for me. Guess what? He still hasn't changed and he is 24!
2006-09-13 08:18:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
3 1/2 years is along time to date. Maybe you shouldn't let him know how attached you feel to him.. Women show more affection than men do, and sometimes they have this urge that we are pushing them away. When we let them know they have nothing to worry about, and we will be right here waiting when they want us, they learn to take advantage. They know we will always forgive. Maybe you should leave him wondering? Let him chase after you for awhile. Let him wonder what life could be like if he didn't have you. I've been married for 20 years and I've learned all the tricks of the trade. So I'm talking from experience here. So please listen from someone who has lived alittle. Leave him worrying and see how fast he comes running! Good luck!
2006-09-13 15:19:39 · answer #2 · answered by Paulda37 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
many men like that when they know u r at all thiers they stop to try. or even becoming worse... remember one commuinication in relation is really important. u should talk him. u should tell him how u feel. that used to was diffrent, that u don't feel he cares u more. then look his reaction and u gonna know. if he cares he maybe gotta coiming early home. but i hv same. loosing myslef. first he says how much he loves and all stuffs so hard i feel his love. then he become as an uncaring coming late, don't hv time for me. and then again says i m all for him. maybe we women can't understand. and maybe they think for us enough to hear and feel it from time to time and so on. bu they don't know that we wanna feel it every second of relation. his caring, love, how much important we r for them.. if i was in situation like u. usually started to ignore him. having no time to him. but it is not good idea coz u feel bad with it. i say u to talk coz it really works. but also i know how sometime is hard to tell him those things. but hun if he asked u to marry he will be again. just don't force him. wait... and desire... huh i usually dressing some sexy things and moving like telling oh wanna ****, just to make him horny...what more can telll u. be urself. but also don't show men that u gonna die if he leaves u. better he thinks u could leave him then he knows what can he loose. whatever. take care
2006-09-13 15:20:31 · answer #3 · answered by kolo molo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he bi-polar or are you ; Your marriage has only one leg to stand on . I would take a break and go deep inside myself and find out if this is the truly the person I want to establish a marriage, with .Children do come along and they need two parents to raise them unless being married is what is most important to you and being a single mom even though you have a husband I would think not.
2006-09-13 15:33:22 · answer #4 · answered by lytesdelite 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hiya!! i think u and ur bf soon 2 be husband needs a serious chat!! u need to sort out ur problem and get it out in the open b4 u get married... coz it might cause problem later in the marriage/relationship. i know its hard if men gets like that but maybe he is unsure if he is doing the right thing! is commitment really what he wants
2006-09-13 15:18:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry to tell you this dear, you man is a little boy who needs to grow up before he makes any commitments. if he goes out to party all night with his friends, what do you thinks going to happen if you two tie the knot. my advice to you is to get a new man, the one you have is a loser.
2006-09-13 15:15:24 · answer #6 · answered by Ms Berry Picker 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From a guys perspective it sounds like he is just using you for what he can get from you. Its time to move on.
2006-09-13 15:12:33 · answer #7 · answered by smoothie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
move on. If he still loves you he'll try doing something about the two of you breaking up.
2006-09-13 15:26:53 · answer #8 · answered by GhostB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore him, dont show him as much affection and i gaurantee he'll come around. and if he doesnt, than its not worth it. if it doesnt bother him, that he must not care. try it out for a week or two....you'll see the difference
2006-09-13 15:20:20 · answer #9 · answered by mr. clean 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
pray pray pray push which means pray untill something happens ill be praying for you too
2006-09-13 15:12:21 · answer #10 · answered by bernie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋