i am a 17 year old girl who just lelf high school.i am two weeks pregnant and i dont know how to break it to my mom.the father of the unborn child is off to colledge,and i am to enter colledge in January 2007.what should. RESPONSE A.S.A.P
2006-09-13 08:06:13 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
There's always adoption. We just can't have another child out there wanting to go to college without knowing how to spell it correctly beforehand.
2006-09-13 08:17:45 · answer #1 · answered by donatello 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I suggest you way the consequences of both sides and decide for yourself what the best plan of action is.
Things to consider:
Can you financially take care of it?
Can you emotionally support it?
Can you carry it to term and hand it over to someone else - without forming a bond with it?
Do you want to be a mother with all the responsibilities, right now?
Could you do this alone - without any emotional or financial support from anyone?
If you have it, what will change in your life?
If you don't what will change?
Will you regret not having it?
I had an abortion when I was18, and I am now 28, married & a mother of 3 boys (all with the same father) with a baby on the way. I look back at my choice and realize that I would not have the life I have right now if I had not of made that very difficult decision.
SO think about all of the things and decide for yourself. Good luck
PS other than the questioner, people please don't email me telling me anything about my decision, cause I don't want your opinions.
2006-09-14 05:08:47 · answer #2 · answered by Just me.... 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you told the baby's father yet?
I am very sorry you are finding yourself in this predicament. How unfortunate and scary for you! However, you aren't the first girl to find yourself pregnant and you won't be the last. I don't know how I would have told my mom if I was 17 and in your shoes. Maybe it's best to tell her now so that will take some of the burden off you...at least she will be there for you and you won't feel so alone. You might be surprised by the strength she will show you and how much strength you have inside yourself.
I wouldn't recommend an abortion but this is your decision, not any of ours. I know it cuts into your college schedule. I wish there was an easy answer. You may regret, in the future, aborting your baby. You may not. Getting into the whole debate about abortion/anti-abortion isn't necessary here...you're a human being and you're pregnant. It's not a sin. It happens every day. I do remember when I was in college that there were some girls who were pregnant during the school year. They had the babies and came back to class in a few days. This may not be realistic for you, but they did it and they kept their babies and didn't adopt them out.
I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. We don't always know that reason when something like this shows up in our lives but we eventually do understand someday. Maybe this baby could someday change the world! You could carry the baby to term and give him or her up for adoption. It's difficult to give up a baby but there are SO MANY wonderful people out there who would love an opportunity to have a baby and can't.
If you choose to keep your baby, please be aware that it's tough to raise a child on your own. There are support groups and lots of places to turn, but it's still not going to be easy. Your childhood will essentially be over from this point on because you won't have the free time you used to have. You won't have an opportunity to hang out with your friends or stay out late. You'll have to work hard and dig deep within yourself to keep going. As you get older you will understand this more. Still, parenting and being a mother can be very rewarding. It's all up to you. If the baby's father takes responsibility, like he should, it will be much easier for you.
Please take care of yourself. Good luck!
2006-09-13 08:22:18 · answer #3 · answered by Hello Dolly 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
wow. well you definitely need to talk to your parents. im sure they will be dissappointed at first, but nothing beats the support of your mom or dad. they will guide you through this wether you decide to keep the baby or not which is completely up to you. you have take a lot into consideration like will the father be in the babies life? will you continue school? are your parents willing to help you out? are you going to give this baby full time care and love? also you have to consider that if you decide not to have this baby you should def. get some sort of therapy right away because you might get a massive amount of guilt and this might carry on through the rest of your life. actually talk to someone at school or an adult right now someone beside your parents (just for now) so other people can tell you the options you have... calling planned parenthood is a good idea they will most definitely have some one you can talk to im sure. well good luck with this one, i feel for you, i really hope you the best :)
2006-09-13 08:12:53 · answer #4 · answered by california 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom...she will still love you no matter what happens. Tell the father as well...he has a say in what happens to the baby too. You should all sit down as a family and discuss the best options for you and the baby. I don't think abortion is the answer. If you don't want the child then give it up for adoption so a family that cannot have kids and wants them will have a chance to have a family.
Weigh all of your options and think long and hard about things before you make a decision.....hard decisions are usually never easy so I wish you the best of luck.
2006-09-13 08:20:13 · answer #5 · answered by Nikki 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This isn't a question you should be discussing with strangers. This is soemthing you need to talk about with people you know and trust, no matter how difficult it may be. If you aren't ready to talk to your parents, talk to another trusted adult: an aunt or uncle, a trusted teacher, school councelor, your pastor, someone like that.
There are also professional people who you can discuss your situation with where you won't have to tell them who you are. Do a yahoo search for "crisis pregnancy" (don't be intimidated by the name...that's just what your situation is commonly called - when a woman who does not want a child becomes pregnant unintentionally) and you will get a variety of organizations' websites, which can give you more information on where to call or go.
2006-09-13 08:11:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide whats right for YOU. Having someone to talk to and help you make your decision is great if you can have that. Tell your mom ask her advice. I am not one to reccomend abortion, adoption is better in my opinion. What about the father, does he know? His opinion counts too, even if youre not together. I've been in your situation, I got pregnantmy senior year, graduated in Juneand gave birth to a wonderful baby boy in August of the same year. His brother folloewd 2 years later. I was on my way to college on a full scolarship but decided that being a mother was what I wanted. It's 11 years later and I dont regret my decision one bit. Look inside of yourself and you'll find the answer. Your heart will tell you what to do.
2006-09-13 08:26:46 · answer #7 · answered by skylark455st2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm probably in the worst situation a person could be in also. you can go read my questions and u will see what I mean, but I swear you do not have to be afraid. There is help out there. I know many organizations that help people like us. I decided to keep mine and after the first ultrasound, I am actually happy now! Ps. Before you even think twice about an abortion, go to the web site the silent scream and watch how they take the life of this innocent baby during an abortion. You will see the baby fighting for his life, and pushing his body away from the suction device, only to have his body ripped apart, limb by limb, and then to have his skull crushed so it can fit out of the uterus! It's enough to make you not see that as an option. E-mail me if you need advice, someone to talk to, or info on where to go to get help! good luck!
2006-09-13 08:33:18 · answer #8 · answered by foxxyy44u 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Oh Hun, I am so sorry that you are in this position. The only people who should be offering you advice on this are the people who know and love you. Go to your mom. When you tell her, do not expect her first reaction to be very good. She may be shocked and may react in a way that will hurt you. Give her a little time to sort out her thoughts and then have a serious talk with her. I hope this all works out for you. Good luck.
2006-09-13 08:12:31 · answer #9 · answered by eeyoreshunni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honnie, take it from me, I was in your shoes at the age of 16. I was a teenage pregnant teen 22 years ago. It was a very difficult time in my life and I thought a baby would make my life difficult and I went and had a abortion. And now; I regret that every single day of my life! Since then I have had 5 miscarries, one still born son and high risk pregnanies with my living children. I just thought God was punishing me for killing a innocet child! If I had it to do over again..I would NOT had went through with it! I bleed very heavy and cramped very bad. It is not a easy process to go through. It's not the unborn child's fault. I know when I had my first child, I was in tears and wished so bad I would have kept my other child. Please consider keeping your baby. God doesn't make mistakes; because God has a plan for every baby even before it is born. Wish you luck honnie..
2006-09-13 08:21:14 · answer #10 · answered by sdrose17 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I got pregnant at 18 and it was hard but I love my son with all my heart. It is up to you to make the choice but if I were you I would talk to your mom she would be the one that would give you the best advice don't listen to anyone on the computer b/c it is your decision and you are the one that has to live with the decision that you make for the rest of your life. Good Luck
2006-09-13 08:17:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋